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  • Manufactured Fear
    Manufactured Fear Před měsícem +1227

    The key, in my opinion, is not having fear. I don't mean having zero fear like the peaky blinders character, but however trying to overcome social fears, like the stress we feel when speaking to a random person on the street. We have to repeat a thousand times there's no danger. Once we have assumed we're not in danger, fear disappears

    • Legacy continues……teacher david
    • ferni
      ferni Před 9 dny

      God Loves you so much , that he sent his only son Jesus Christ to die for us , because of Christ we can be saved if we turned to him , always have Faith and Pray❤️ Love your enemies and Forgive them as God Will Forgive you too❤️❤️❤️

    • Katie H
      Katie H Před 16 dny

      @K. S. I have this quote on my wall and I think of it everyday

    • Yelt nail
      Yelt nail Před 21 dnem

      @Corp Neo so did the guy who stabbed you.😅

    • Julian Sihite
      Julian Sihite Před 23 dny

      When we try to apply this kind of zero-fear, I know this is sigma-style, but sometimes we will be looked a bit arrogant, actually in office area with hierarchical organization.
      For example, when I tried to share my concern with zero-fear with my VP (vice president) while I was just only a staff, they thought like I was rebellious person and arrogant.
      This kind of thing is not really necessary for generic implementation...

  • Insydium
    Insydium Před měsícem +776

    These are things you do naturally when youre confident, these body language videos dont work because youre just imitating confidence. You cant lie to yourself about how you actually feel, people see straight through it

    • Natalia Buchahin Alvarez
      Natalia Buchahin Alvarez Před dnem

      fake it 'til u make it hon

    • Ethane Brooks
      Ethane Brooks Před 21 dnem

      This is straight to the point

    • ᴍᴏᴄʜɪɪᴇᴇ_ᴋɪᴍ
      ᴍᴏᴄʜɪɪᴇᴇ_ᴋɪᴍ Před 22 dny +1

      They work actually. When you 'imitate' you are manipulating your mind to believe you're confident. Trust me, forcing yourself to sit upright and avoid looking at your phone and forcing yourself to talk in a leisure tone will do something. Even if you don't reach the 100% mark you will definitely not be at zero.

    • Shina
      Shina Před 26 dny

      to have this kind of confidence, you gotta have that closeted superiority complex going on so you can constantly control your emotions

    • Rammo ya salame
      Rammo ya salame Před 27 dny

      Fake it until you make it

  • ~ J u s t P a i n ~
    ~ J u s t P a i n ~ Před měsícem +433

    Finally.. now I can have respect from my cat..

    • Hailey Nichelle
      Hailey Nichelle Před 12 hodinami +1

      They should do a video on learning confidence from cats! 🤣
      1. TAKE UP SPACE
      2. STEADY / BORED EYE CONTACT
      3. PUT YOURSELF FIRST

    • Justin Benjamin
      Justin Benjamin Před 7 dny

      😂

    • USER  DIED🥀
      USER DIED🥀 Před 10 dny

      @loml_covers that's my opinion coz no one is worth of our trust... and i felt this...

    • loml_covers
      loml_covers Před 11 dny

      @USER DIED🥀 your hopes already died by this kind of mindset please don't kill him let him live PEACEFULLY

    • ꧁Monke-Man꧂🍌🦍
      ꧁Monke-Man꧂🍌🦍 Před 19 dny +2

      I wouldn't keep eye contact 😂

  • Justin Dadswell
    Justin Dadswell Před měsícem +177

    I can go with the non-reactive part. But hold eye contact, just do it in a way that doesn't escalate things. My most vivid experience was a man that had a knife to my throat. He then slide the knife across my throat and said I could easy do this for real. While maintaining eye contact, I said "Yeah, you could". But that was the jist of it, my language and voice didn't say I was looking to attack him - it was simply matter of fact, yes you could do that.
    This was dealing with a violent person in my old job (he threatened one of my employees and many people of the public - which also probably alludes to realizing if the person really wants to or not - I knew he didn't want to).
    If I knew he wanted to hurt someone, I'd probably hold an askew contact with his eyes. Not looking directly at, but close. Show not afraid, but also understand he means business. Looking all the way to the side shows weakness, and for some reason weakness is a better reason to kill than not.
    He walked away. Didn't make him feel powerful and didn't demean him. Just solid eye contact and no flinching.

    • Daniel Acatay
      Daniel Acatay Před 12 dny

      why lying in youtube comments

    • cof.
      cof. Před 27 dny +5

      People underestimate how common it is to be physically threatened, so you're gonna get a lot of "r/thathappened" responses. Maybe your story is fake, maybe it's real, but either way you still got your point across.

    • Tanmay Jain
      Tanmay Jain Před měsícem

      @x5xruud lol

    • x5xruud
      x5xruud Před měsícem +15

      Nice story, bro.

  • jod
    jod Před 2 měsíci +339

    For all of this habits you need a strong background

    • Surya Rishith 9thk4
      Surya Rishith 9thk4 Před 26 dny

      @padarousou concrete foundation with good quality cement

    • jod
      jod Před měsícem

      @soujelangu17 right my bro

    • soujelangu17
      soujelangu17 Před měsícem

      @jod most gangsters today are spineless cretins relegated to lapdogs of their biggies, you ever noticed there isn't a single one over 6 ft tall and can stand their own ground?

    • elina singh
      elina singh Před měsícem

      @jod can you rephrase it?

    • padarousou
      padarousou Před měsícem

      And a solid foundation

  • the one who asked
    the one who asked Před měsícem +100

    End of the story: Just be yourself you don't need anyone's respect or love
    Live for yourself and don't care about people's opinion

    • Thunder Waderer
      Thunder Waderer Před 21 hodinou

      nah thats a big L , you are promoting degeneracy

    • John Smith
      John Smith Před 5 dny

      Thank you. Ironically, if you try and "show confidence" it will end up making you less confident. The harder you try to impress people, the less impressed they will be. You are right. Only focus on the people who you need respect from. The vast majority of people you meet are not that important to you, so you should not consider them important either.

    • 𝔏𝔢 𝔊é𝔫é𝔯𝔞𝔩 𝔄𝔣𝔣𝔞𝔪é
      𝔏𝔢 𝔊é𝔫é𝔯𝔞𝔩 𝔄𝔣𝔣𝔞𝔪é Před 15 dny

      If nobody respects you, you'll be treated in an undesirable way which will only make life harder.

    • 安江 Minato
      安江 Minato Před 25 dny +1

      Well said.

  • Priidik Möls
    Priidik Möls Před měsícem +64

    People fixate on 'confidence-confidence-confidence'. It is the eventual outcome of good traits aggregating. Form and keep your inner peace. That is the first step. The other is discipline. Confidence is cross product of the two, nothing more. It's like trying to make pancakes without having any idea what are heat, grease, flour, milk and eggs for.

    • clovercando
      clovercando Před měsícem +3

      Love the pancake analogy 🥞

    • crazyaskpop
      crazyaskpop Před měsícem +2

      Couldn't agree more on first two statements

  • Alex R
    Alex R Před 6 měsíci +631

    As an introverted person, I’ve learned that the very first point he made about having slow movements is true. Before, I used to rush to do things, making it clear that I was always in a hurry. I started to be meticulous about everything, and people who I later befriended said I seemed confident. It works lol

    • enricoleon_
      enricoleon_ Před 5 dny

      @Jaxan7294 thanks for the response (i didn't answer before becuase i didnt receive the notificaton)

    • Cayne Reed
      Cayne Reed Před 3 měsíci +2

      @Jaxan7294 Happiness is not found external forces, like you said, it is to be found inside the soul. Otherwise, you risk losing your happiness since everything can be taken. Your soul, values, virtues, and philosophy cannot.

    • Jaxan7294
      Jaxan7294 Před 3 měsíci +1

      @Cayne Reed Yeah I guess so, I'm passively studying it in my spare time right now
      Things like :
      Intrinsic motivation over social status
      Desensitization of negative emotions to increase positive ones and mitigate negative ones
      I don't consider myself a "stoic" but I try to extract the insights that work for me while not obeying its rules too strongly. Every ideology has flaws and I think I'm better off borrowing pieces from others to create my own, although still flawed one
      At least for me philosophical pursuits are more valuable then conventional self improvement, since it helps you discover what you actually care about, who you are, and strategies to deal with life instead of some guru telling you what you need to do in order to be happy and get everything you want
      That just feeds hedontic adaptation (we get used to the things and experiences we have so things and experiences that make us happy wear off) and neglects individuality

    • Cayne Reed
      Cayne Reed Před 3 měsíci +2

      @Jaxan7294 What you described, came as stoicism. Slow movements, proving for yourself not others, and focusing on your nature. It is not for everyone I concur.

    • Jaxan7294
      Jaxan7294 Před 3 měsíci +7

      @enricoleon_ Oh I didn't explicitly test anything too much since my social calendar isn't the fullest right now. I've been in a more introspective period recently
      When I walk slowly it forces me to be more patient and reflect more often and I don't really notice any social change, I think it comes across as intimidating sometimes though, at least that's what someone told me last year (i move slowly naturally, this was before i was aware of it and tried to move slower intentionally). I am also unsure how much people respect me since that is not really something you can gauge unless you ask, but I don't often feel disrespected so maybe it plays a part in that, but I often let people talk over me since I don't like interrupting them so maybe that's a form of disrespect if you think about it? I don't like being in people's faces and trying too hard to gain their attention
      Also my philosophy watching these is probably different to most, I don't put too much importance on changing myself to attract other people because that is a bit inauthentic to me and defeats the point of low effort attraction. If you have to try and act a certain way to attract people is it really attraction? I think trying to please everybody socially and have a strong presence is a great way to disappoint and burn yourself out, not that social status doesn't matter and that you shouldn't try to improve, it's just that there is always someone who will ignore you simply because they are attracted to different traits or are preoccupied with their own lives. How much attention you get from others doesn't determine your value
      So yeah I don't really have a clear answer for you since I don't take it that seriously and prioritize other things, I acknowledge that might be disappointing. I just watch these for some passive learning, it's fun to learn about people :) Being too concerned with how you come across is a recipe for anxiety so I try to accept my natural traits first, even if they are unconventional or weird and then use more covert methods like these if I need to. Example: If you have naturally dreamy eyes and look around when you think or reply to someone, there's no need to force yourself to make strong eye contact with someone unless it's important or are listening to them. Forcing yourself to do something unnatural to you can sometimes spur growth, but it can also be needlessly tiring

  • Psychology Refresh
    Psychology Refresh Před 7 měsíci +11088

    These are some incredibly effective ways to instantly command respect from people:
    - Be vocal about your flaws
    - Compliment people around you
    - Hold your ground
    - Keep your word
    - Improve your body language

    • Hailey Nichelle
      Hailey Nichelle Před 7 hodinami

      Complimenting people too much can come across as obsequious, insecure, manipulative, or even creepy if you do it wrong. Compliment sparingly and make sure it's genuine.

    • Hailey Nichelle
      Hailey Nichelle Před 8 hodinami

      Being too vocal about your flaws can come across self-deprecating. More like take ownership of your flaws and be humble.

    • TBH Thanso
      TBH Thanso Před 18 dny

      This is all the same as saying, "Just be confident"

    • padarousou
      padarousou Před měsícem

      Really its just dont be a d bag and try to humor people

    • Piano Progress Channel Martine
      Piano Progress Channel Martine Před měsícem

      @The Right Arm of the Free World honesty is strength

  • Morbeeus
    Morbeeus Před měsícem +2

    The world is made up of angles or perspectives. Convincing others that your angle or perspective is the way to go is only successful when everyone who is involved feels that they can benefit from the situation. Example: just like in sales. After all, don't we all want the best deal in life? Once you have sold your self in convincing others through conviction in who you are and what you believe in or stand for, then the situation will hold more weight in the minds and hearts of those you are trying to convince. Compliments or blowing sunshine up one's dark side will only get you so far. Most people see through that fluff, so be mindful of not laying it on too thick because that can possibly can ruin where your coming from. If it smells like 💩 or looks like 💩 it's most likely going to drive people away. Don't be phony be genuine to others and show them respect that is more important anyways. That was a good video. Thank you for making it. 🕊️

  • Silent_Dreamer702
    Silent_Dreamer702 Před měsícem +9

    This one definitely worked. Thanks!!!

  • Danilo Range
    Danilo Range Před měsícem +15

    All correct but nothing beats knowledge and competence in what you are doing. Your tips might work for some stunts. If that show of confidence is not backed by the beforemengioned trades, people won’t take you serious anymore.

    • Thomas James
      Thomas James Před 5 dny +1

      Exactly. There’s no replacement for the confidence that comes from putting in the work. Faking it till you make it only works for so long. Once people really get to know you, your true lack of confidence will show. Competence leads to unbreakable confidence.

  • Collins Joseph
    Collins Joseph Před měsícem +12

    Tommy Continues his topic Despite what other Topics are being discussed in the room.
    Don't leave that part out

  • Samuel King
    Samuel King Před měsícem +2

    If you can’t tell everyone with a single glance that you are very much uncommon then don’t try to intimidate.

  • Sabz-Ghaba Studio
    Sabz-Ghaba Studio Před měsícem +7

    Awesome .... Outstanding work Congrats.

  • Luís Direito
    Luís Direito Před měsícem +9

    Well, he's an actor. It's much easier to hold eye contact without breaking it when you know you are playing a role, and you know the other person is too. You know what the outcome is, and there's nothing to fear or be anxious about, since it's all scripted. There's a reason why some of us are actors, and others aren't: because they can't play a role convincingly. It's not like that in real life, though. Nothing is scripted, you don't know what's gonna happen, and it's much harder to be fully aware of your body language and your words, let alone control them.

    • Luís Direito
      Luís Direito Před 4 dny

      @John Smith I'm not sure what you meant. Did you mean "showed great confidence?" I don't think it shows that much confidence, though, for me to express an opinion that says nothing personal about me on social media, where you don't even need to use your real name (it's my real name, though). So why would you be impressed? Anyway, thanks, I guess...

    • John Smith
      John Smith Před 5 dny

      Exactly. Btw, you should great confidence in expressing that opinion here. I am impressed. LOL.

  • Mateusz Z.
    Mateusz Z. Před měsícem +2

    You can know and do all of these things, but as long as you don't feel it, you won't successful.

  • Abdul Rahman
    Abdul Rahman Před 7 měsíci +8418

    That laid back attitude is what pulls ya in.
    I have also noticed he is a man of few words. No cracking jokes, no extra fluffy words. Every thing he says is on point.
    Only Talking when its necessary is a great way to put more weight on your words!

    • borek921
      borek921 Před měsícem +1

      Yep. And a great way to be no fun to be around

    • Self gem
      Self gem Před měsícem

      true

    • Gufran Shaikh
      Gufran Shaikh Před měsícem

      @Bharat Rawat it just looks cool in the series there's no sense it applying it in real life

    • Tupac Shakur
      Tupac Shakur Před měsícem

      @Noureldin Alfi begs to differ

    • Bharat Rawat
      Bharat Rawat Před měsícem

      "no cracking jokes" What would be the fun in life if you stay serious in every moment.

  • Stewart McGavin
    Stewart McGavin Před měsícem

    With a lot of people talking about you on here honestly I must say It's obvious you the best out there Nck mythss1 you saved me 😢

  • Natimationarts
    Natimationarts Před měsícem +8

    This guys rizz control is insane, he radiates rizz man, his chakra control is insane bro he could kill me any day.

    • Adidev S
      Adidev S Před měsícem +1

      Madara can beat him

  • Digital Nomad On FIRE
    Digital Nomad On FIRE Před měsícem

    Never look down, this is submissive and may get you battered.
    Look to the SIDE to de-escallate.

  • smile
    smile Před měsícem +7

    Me being quiet get alot of bullies😐

  • Ulf Lurken
    Ulf Lurken Před měsícem

    Sigh. Knowing how to read the tells, or how to give false ones, is not at all the same as knowing how to play the hand.
    The best one can hope for from a video like this is how to not accidentally give tells inviting disrespect.

  • Lloyd Chan
    Lloyd Chan Před měsícem

    Tried that with my teacher once when i was young..i got detention..

  • Mrs Helen Humphreys
    Mrs Helen Humphreys Před měsícem +3

    love this

  • ChefGiovanni
    ChefGiovanni Před měsícem +1

    Remember kids, this is Hollywood. And respect is earned not given. Be a wolf among sheep.

  • peter blood
    peter blood Před 7 měsíci +4083

    Tommy had something most people don't. He had no fear of death as he had faced it many times during the war. He, basically, had nothing to lose as he felt he was living on borrowed time anyway. Combine that lack of fear with an analytical mind and you have a very strong personality indeed.

    • loml_covers
      loml_covers Před 11 dny

      @Tomy Stark no one fears death everyone fears the process because you can't predict how you gonna die

    • Samson 92
      Samson 92 Před 27 dny +1

      @itsM1ha The most intelligent comment I've seen in the entire comment section! And the most true of them all! 🙂👍🏻
      @Willow I never said I had depression! I said in my comment, that my FRIEND had depression! Read the ENTIRE comment instead of only reading a few lines!!!

    • Willow
      Willow Před 27 dny

      @Samson 92 Depression makes you think that you're not afraid of death until you're actually face-to-face with it.

    • D-Wats Houston's Finest
      D-Wats Houston's Finest Před měsícem

      @Tom Litt I feel you. I'm not religious either...but... I hope you understand that thinking not being religious saving one from a continued eternity, is just as irrational as fearing death.

    • Thanos
      Thanos Před měsícem

      Jesus is the light: true goodness and righteousness
      - we must let this light be seen through us, and act as vessels for Jesus. We must let people see and understand Jesus through us, by following his teachings and living in a way that God wants us to
      - Jesus' teachings aren't restrictive, but thwy give you true freedom

  • Aussie Raver
    Aussie Raver Před měsícem

    4:54
    Every damn time.
    It's as if I'm surrounded by neanderthals.
    It's common sense not to interrupt someone for the sake of....gosh, I have have no idea why they do it.
    Everyone seems to be socially inept.
    It's awkward.

  • Drib
    Drib Před 25 dny +1

    I had a lot of problems holding eye contact with people. What really helped me was the "choosing an eye" thing. It also automatically made me feel more confident because I knew my eyes were completely locked on the person. It was a whole different energy.

  • Ana Bautista
    Ana Bautista Před 6 měsíci +9

    1. He has slow, relaxed movements. 2. He is comfortable holding eye contact, even during conflict. 3. He is non-reactive to hostility. 4. Be as big as your audience. 5. Show conviction with your words. 6. Show conviction with your tone. 7. Speak slowly and use pauses between words. 8. Use carrot / stick motivation.

  • Thomas Shelby
    Thomas Shelby Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks for the advice

  • Chacarron91
    Chacarron91 Před 7 měsíci +3782

    - Slow And Relax Men Movement
    - Strong Eye Contact
    - Not Reactive To Hostility
    - Be As Big As Your Audience
    - Show Conviction With Your Words
    - Show Conviction With Your Tone
    - Speak Slowly And Use Pauses
    - Use Carrot/Stick Motivation

    • Surya Rishith 9thk4
      Surya Rishith 9thk4 Před 26 dny

      can i use hand contact instead of eye contact

    • Scene Thrills
      Scene Thrills Před měsícem

      Thanks

    • hamnidads
      hamnidads Před měsícem

      @InfamooseVibesmen he's trying to improve on it, not practice it

    • Papuc Gol
      Papuc Gol Před měsícem

      @Akash n

    • oscoe
      oscoe Před 2 měsíci

      Slow and relax women movement
      Strong eye muscles(workout by going left and right)
      Not reacting to hospitality marketing
      Be as big as a theatre crowd, (pies are crucial to achieve)
      Show conviction history on your cv
      Speak slowly and use…………………………..pauses
      Use carrot/stick/parsnip/whip/turnip/knife motivational methods

  • Shaun Villafana
    Shaun Villafana Před 5 měsíci +8

    I think the key thing everyone should remember here is that it's actually pretty easy to keep your cool with a gun to your head -when you're an actor on a set.
    In fact, what would be more difficult is to actually act legitimately scared if you were an actor on a set.
    So I find it funny that we're looking at the theme of non-acting or less acting and in scripted fiction, as an amazing representation for how to act chill in real life.
    In essence - we are to be more of an actor than the actor needs to be lol

  • Chris Penfield
    Chris Penfield Před 5 měsíci +9

    These are great insights. One of the things I've discovered is that if you have settled your death in your own mind it takes quite a bit of edge off tension, fear, and worry. There is a saying, "Today is a good day to die." I've heard it attributed to the Lakota tribe and also some other sources so I don't know the definitive origin. Also the Stoic saying, "Amor Fati" is a reminder to know your mortality and act accordingly. If you are reconciled to your own death there is not too much left to upset you.

  • AD plasmique
    AD plasmique Před měsícem

    You can't eye contact in every case, it maybe harmfull....
    Like: in viva exam where teacher is scolding you for bad performance...bruh

  • Junior
    Junior Před 3 měsíci +7

    This is incredibly and effectively commanding. Having all these qualities as Tommy did, you are good to go. Thanks for this👍👍

  • Samrat Dey
    Samrat Dey Před 7 měsíci +1223

    Thomas shelby was a world war 1 veteran in the series. He was a tunneler, a job which requires you to operate in the worst possible conditions. He was a gypsy who lived his childhood in poverty. And all of this hardships coupled with horrors of the war made tommy who he was. Merely imitating his reactions to certain situations won't make you a tough guy. You have live your life out of your comfort zone to transform your persona into that of someone like thomas shelby.

    • Turf
      Turf Před měsícem

      Bro
      all the languages in this world and u chose to speak facts

    • WhyAreYouBooingMe
      WhyAreYouBooingMe Před měsícem

      Great comment but could've stopped at tunneler, not saying you should have. The stuff they constantly went through, if you have fear it'll kill you.

    • Da Troof
      Da Troof Před měsícem

      It's the answer to every, single skill. Practice.

    • Eli Sampley
      Eli Sampley Před měsícem

      Thomas Shelby isn't a real person, it's an actor named Cillian Murphy lmao. And if he can do it anyone can, just play your part convincingly.

    • Timur Sultanov
      Timur Sultanov Před měsícem

      @PLKA(SO) godlike words bro...Russians say,the fool lEarns from his own misstakes,the smart one from mistakes of others...surely goes for strengths too...

  • GuitaRockz1
    GuitaRockz1 Před 2 měsíci +1

    An amazing and insightful video! However, as others have suggested, life experiences and continuing through hardship develops a strong will - its this that people are attracted to when it comes to charisma, assertiveness, leadership etc.

  • Tigerdan
    Tigerdan Před měsícem

    These things also fits for Jack Sparrow

  • Aemot
    Aemot Před měsícem

    Nice video :)

  • E.PLUMBUS UNUM
    E.PLUMBUS UNUM Před měsícem

    My personal experience with being able to speak in front of an audience is to be prepared and to have confidence in what it is you will be communicating. I found that I would almost zone out as I was lecturing as if everything else sort of vanished and I was in my own dimension delivering the message I had prepared ahead of time.

  • Stefan Schleps
    Stefan Schleps Před 5 měsíci +3

    Thank you CoC. I really like what you're doing here. I appreciate it.
    I'd like to add that confidence is in no small way based upon will power. To build ones will power only requires one to keep his word. Just keep your word. This is the easiest way I know of to make a positive improvement in your Self. All the best.
    Laoshr #60
    Ching Yi Kung Fu Association

  • Matthew Blackwell
    Matthew Blackwell Před 3 měsíci +15

    I've recently began holding eye contact with people I work with and its changed the way I get treated even by my superiors it's great!

  • IrradiatedMushroom
    IrradiatedMushroom Před měsícem +10

    Recognising your presence within the space and exemplifying it.
    Even if you know you're not the toughest guy in the Bar, saying hello to the Regulars you don't even chat to is a major sign that shows YOU are in control.
    You walk up to the Bar and someone else is already getting a drink and the Barman say "Aye, What're you havin?" TO YOU.
    Goes outside the place aswell. When people see you have a manner about ye, they know you mean business. Sometimes but not to often you need to expel that information.
    So look the part and you will be sooner than not!

  • WiredGaming
    WiredGaming Před měsícem

    respect is for losers dominance is for winners

  • Reconnected
    Reconnected Před 7 měsíci +4989

    Body language goes a long way. Things like: standing tall, taking up more space, not crossing your arms tightly, and making good eye contact. It's the difference between "he looks so awkward" and "he's the strong silent type."

    • Elite Boy
      Elite Boy Před měsícem

      @ciociaro irrequiete Lol, he litrally said that this video is not only about being confident on the outside but from the inside as well. And these were some of the tips that you can do to at least look like you are confident. This ain't the holy grail of confidence, so take it with a grain of salt.

    • Jivs
      Jivs Před 3 měsíci +1

      what’s the correct way to stand? I thought crossing ur arms is better than keeping them in ur pocket? Where should ur hands be when standing with ppl (in this situation u don’t have a drink or anything to hold)

    • Judis
      Judis Před 3 měsíci +1

      I feel like you left out a crucial detail. To come off as the “strong silent type” of guy, you either have to be intimidatingly attractive or monstrously large. If you don’t have either of those qualities, you give off quiet kid school shooter energy.

    • John
      John Před 3 měsíci

      ​@Linda🤠💅 I hang my left arm down and hold it just below the elbow with my right hand .Its a non aggressive move, but if I have to I can lash out with my right fist in a Uraken or back handed face smack if I am threatened in any way .

    • John
      John Před 3 měsíci

      I am 81 .Did karate years ago for 8 years , still do weights .Not tall 5.8" .But won't let myself be intimidated .Like I noticed sometimes if I am walking towards other people ( men and women) they sometimes cross the road to other side of the street .I don't know ow why , except it must be the way I physically walk towards people .Even had a gang of teens part to let me through without me saying excuse me .Somewhere in all those years of kumite in the dojo , something has stuck to me ( ie body language ) lol

  • BaneOfXistence4
    BaneOfXistence4 Před 4 měsíci +8

    There's something else that is important that was ommitted. Whenever somebody does interrupt Tommy with a question, whether he's speaking or giving a proposal, he simply ignores it and continues onward with what he was saying. That speaks volumes without actually having to say anything extra.

  • Wibster
    Wibster Před 5 měsíci +3

    I think 3-5 is a bit long but probably ok so long as you don’t stare straight into the eyes. Better to focus around the forehead area just above and avoid direct eye contact with strangers because the moment that direct contact is reached that’s enough to trigger certain types of individuals. Always have a clear understanding of who you’re dealing with

  • Yash kawade
    Yash kawade Před 6 měsíci +10

    The only character that I will compare to Tommy is John wick. He's quieter than anyone and holds great respect in his community. Now I believe he has earned that respect by his actions(fighting), but he's also not some crazy assassin who just kills anyone. He also speaks when he feels the need otherwise he's just a straight face but also shows his confidence.

  • Me Me
    Me Me Před 2 měsíci +2

    It's funny - I'm in my 30s and over the years have ended up with a demeanour (not personality) very similar to this. I've always been quite emotionally distant and "cold" from being some ways on the spectrum socially speaking, and also very analytical of people's reactions to how/what I say. I think a lot of it came from watching movies and shows growing up, then emulating the characters I most wanted to identify with; being a very shy, introverted and quite insecure child I obviously saw a lot of what I wanted in these cool, collected and persuasive characters. I've sometimes been accused of talking like a robot by those closest to me when dealing with stressful or emotional situations, yet one of the first words that so many people use to describe me is "confident" or "assured" or something of that nature.
    Yet, I know damned well that it's still nothing but a facade and an emulation that I wear like a suit for everyone to see. I've got very comfortable in it, and it seems natural to those around me - yet inside I doubt, second guess and naysay every decision I make on a daily basis. I never back myself to succeed - regardless of how often I do. "Fake it til you make it" is often great in hindsight, the hindsight only coming after you "make it". Until then, you are still firmly in the "fake it" basket with no guarantee that you'll ever graduate to the "make it".

  • Sarah
    Sarah Před 5 měsíci +2

    I love your videos and find them really helpful. I noticed that this one was very male-centric and would be interested in some female examples of holding respect as an introverted woman.

  • Jesron!
    Jesron! Před měsícem

    good video !

  • Mythical History
    Mythical History Před měsícem +1

    Man wasn't like this before going to war so I guess we all should experience war to act like him

  • itsM1ha
    itsM1ha Před měsícem +1

    Main thing that lifts you up is acting and feeling on top of the people you talk to even tho ur obviously not. It might seem a bit toxic but people will start to respect you more

  • Amogg Us
    Amogg Us Před 5 měsíci +6

    The less you speak the more your words will weigh. Silence is golden and duct tape is silver. Also, staying silent doesn't necessarily mean that you are confident or unconfident. Silence and confidence don't really have to relate to each other. But at the same time, they can. I also firmly believe that silence can be a characteristic of an individual who is practicing self control. Or perhaps they could be a silent weirdo? That's not always the case though. If you are indeed a silent person, I am not going to assume that you are a silent weirdo (no one should assume that). Also, if someone thinks that you are a silent weirdo, then do not worry about what they think of you. If you worry about what people think of you, then that means that you are lacking in confidence and are insecure. Practicing self control over your thoughts, emotions, words and actions can be a great form of self discipline and discipline can give you confidence. Those who have self control, will have control over their tongue. Which means that they will speak only when it is necessary, or if they are spoken to first and engaged into a conversation. A thought can cause an action. A thought can cause a word. A thought can cause an emotion, the emotion then causes a word and or an action. Gain control over your thoughts. This will reduce stress, fear, anxiety, and worry. If you master self control, then I guarantee you that you will gain confidence. I'm sure that by now you have realized that confidence should not be gained through self image, ego, and vanity. It should only be found within. Through self control and discipline. You can not only gain confidence from these two things, but also humility. Silence can also be a sign of humility and prudence. Those who are silent can spend more time to think before they speak, so that their words will be more meaningful. And if you are regularly interrupted during conversations you must become the bigger person, by remaining silent, and let that person talk your ear off.

  • MOVIE WATCHER
    MOVIE WATCHER Před 24 dny

    The case with me is: in some situations I'm very afraid before it get start, or in a moments before it get started, but when it get started I have no fear. I let things go naturally. But before that I'm shaking of fear.

  • oscoe
    oscoe Před 2 měsíci +21

    Ps inner strength allows you to confront physical fear. A strong person knows that even if you beat me physically you cannot beat me mentally.

  • M. Kokabiel
    M. Kokabiel Před měsícem

    Yeah no. I'm the complete opposite of this lmao

  • Mathias Vibeto
    Mathias Vibeto Před 7 měsíci +2765

    While i think Tommy Shelby is an fascinating and cool character, i also think it is important to differentiate fiction from reality.
    In Peaky Blinders he knows his place and does things that somehow work wonders and miracles.
    This character has a fictional history and his nature is more than likely purely based on what the creators of the show wanted it to be, so it can be captivating. Who in his right mind would behave like him and get away with it? Everything is pre determined in the show. You're NEVER gonna be either one. You is the only real thing. Not the character Cillian Murphy portrays. Realistically, If you were put under the pressure Tommy has faced, you'd be dead before you realized it. It's like doing an analysis on Scarface. Sure it's fun, interesting and fascinating but not close to the reality of OUR world. This is just my humble opinion. Don't compare yourself to none other than you.
    However, is this a cool analysis of Thomas? Absolutely.

    • J
      J Před měsícem

      That's very true, and more often than not, reality's stranger than fiction. There are some decent points in the video but the reasons why this works so well for a character like tommy is because what you said; it's fiction. If anyone tried acting like this irl that would be too distant, and it'll be obvious if someone's trying to capture a certain fictional character... in the real world. I guess what I'm trying to say is notice some of the points in this video, but also it's okay to be human too. All the way from confidence, to awkward moments.

    • goofybiach
      goofybiach Před 2 měsíci

      Bro wrote a whole article

    • scr0tumx xx
      scr0tumx xx Před 3 měsíci

      @Maritza Reneau i just dont like when random ppl on internet wasting my time

    • Maritza Reneau
      Maritza Reneau Před 3 měsíci

      @scr0tumx xx yeah, reading gives headaches to lazy people.

    • joey
      joey Před 4 měsíci

      @hasan muttaqin exactly you are the sum of your actions not your intentions. Everybody has good intentions but not all people are good people.

  • Dr. Seku Gathers
    Dr. Seku Gathers Před měsícem

    💯💯

  • Blackyt
    Blackyt Před 13 dny

    I felt more relax nd comfortable after watching this ❤

  • Rachel Lovelace
    Rachel Lovelace Před 2 měsíci +2

    Very rarely do people these days experience something in their life that reveals the triviality of most of life's pursuits and the conversations that surround them. That kind of hell sets people free from the fear that grips those still blinded by everything you now see as trivial. You move slower. You think clearer. You see straight through the B.S. You're not impervious. You're just tempered. Tommy's character is tempered.

  • claudia sentoro
    claudia sentoro Před 18 dny +33

    You know you could work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement,meanwhile some people are putting thousands of dollars in a meme coin and now they are multimillionaires.

    • Garre John
      Garre John Před 17 dny

      Yes of course,i do attend her weekly classes.

    • Willems
      Willems Před 17 dny

      Does she also offer mentorship tutorials?

    • Martha Robertson
      Martha Robertson Před 17 dny

      Though I started with as low as $1,300 actually because it was my first time and it was successful.

    • Brigham Rowe
      Brigham Rowe Před 17 dny

      I was able to see that she's a registered trader, cause to be sincere I don't believe most things I see online but I'm definitely sure that she's real, is there any way I could reach out to her?

    • G.S Dalve
      G.S Dalve Před 17 dny

      Oh yeah have met her,I got linked up to her at los angeles at UCLA sabrina financial conference,and ever since then she has helped me alot in trading.

  • Ethan Wallis
    Ethan Wallis Před 5 měsíci +2

    On behalf of me and my fellow quiet people, thank you

  • Christopher Ray Ulloa
    Christopher Ray Ulloa Před 3 měsíci +2

    Crazy how I do this naturally. Although it could be my subconscious picking up these traits from movies/shows I've watched since I was little.

  • èlSeñoreCabra
    èlSeñoreCabra Před měsícem +2

    I don't need this vid tbh I'm introvert and whenever I go out in public people see with respect Lmao leaving my friends and the people I'm open too much with but strangers usually talk nicely and try to not make eye contact like they're scared or respect Lmao

  • thatdudefromearth
    thatdudefromearth Před měsícem +3

    Being confident in front of a person holding a gun and trying to eye them down will probably just get you shot in the face. He's a fictional character, set in fictional circumstances, where he's always one step ahead.
    This analysis just reminds me of all the pictures basic people post on Facebook of Tom Hardy smoking cigars, saying something like "The haters think they get to me, I just laugh because I don't even know they exist." Those pictures are like the bumper stickers or the bland t-shirt slogans of the internet. Usually posted by someone screaming at the world between welfare payments.

  • ً
    ً Před 4 měsíci +1

    I've been introverted my whole life and I do all this stuff I didn't even notice I did that Tommy does and people always tell me I'm a man of few words and how I can keep so calm and direct I just tell them in not really sure it just happens

  • Ashutosh Mishra
    Ashutosh Mishra Před měsícem +1

    This is scripted and Tommy know the consequences before it may occur. But this doesn't work in real life because life is dynamic and it doesn't matter how tough yu are it will pull yu in submission.

  • Ben Lannigan
    Ben Lannigan Před 2 měsíci

    The thing is, Tommy has experienced traumatic things in the war which makes him more confident in tense situations

  • Yasin Nabi
    Yasin Nabi Před 21 dnem

    “Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to become the best of which you are capable.” -John Wooden.

  • 🥧 my cutti pie horse 🥧
    🥧 my cutti pie horse 🥧 Před 2 měsíci

    There l 5 boys in my class who used to bully me and l give theme my death staer and now they don't even look at me

  • Leo Stiffer
    Leo Stiffer Před měsícem

    also if u wonder how to act like tht guy in the video . first u must train your body and mind sparring can help boost ur confident if u dont wan pick a fight with anyone foreal . u cant just do all the gesture without gain the basic thing "confident" . well yea if u skinny and look weak af u do this gesture people will laugh at u .

  • Mr Usman
    Mr Usman Před 2 měsíci

    No murdering of children involved 😂

  • Mekail Kamran
    Mekail Kamran Před 3 měsíci +1

    This video is golden! I come back to it every few days and work on improving 1 aspect in my day-to-day life from this video. So far, i've gotten good at becoming non-reactive in situations which make me angry or emotional. It works like a charm. I've also slowed down my movements such as walking. I feel so much confident now when I'm outside or in the market when I'm walking slow. One thing which I'm improving right now is knowing that everything'll be fine which brings about calmness in my demeanor in confidence in my dealings. Thank you man for this gem of a video!

  • A Ingle
    A Ingle Před 7 měsíci +612

    Dude absolutely played his character to perfection. Exactly like someone who’s been through a lot

    • Mitchell
      Mitchell Před 4 měsíci +8

      It will forever be his masterpiece, the show show had the best casting I've seen in a show.

    • Charisma
      Charisma Před 5 měsíci +2

      couldn't agree more

    • Kayleigh Schofield
      Kayleigh Schofield Před 6 měsíci +13

      yes, they chose the right actors

  • Dhiraj
    Dhiraj Před 7 hodinami +1

    How should I react if i happen to be around a person i don't want to engage in conversation with? Should I ignore them? Because holding eye contact will make them assume i want to engage in conversation. And how should I interact with my female classmates in my class? I try not to hold contact because it will give an impression that i am interested in them, but this isn't the right time for me to be looking for being into a relationship because i have other priorities with much more importance right now and i cannot afford to mess up. Because this is the turning point of my life and i know that i will get to be around better people and have a better partner once i get there, once I make the best use of my opportunities this year. I am also not the right person to be in a relationship right now because i don't have that confidence.

  • Rant Therapist
    Rant Therapist Před 2 měsíci

    Here's how to really make people respect you. Be someone worthy of respect.
    Lead a life worthy of respect. That's it, that's the only way.

  • A Jim Fan
    A Jim Fan Před 11 dny

    I find it's easy to keep cool under danger and intimidation, but then I find that my ego can get out of control and I might get in over my head, so then not only do I have to think calm, but also mind that second factor. So my brain is working double time, and THAT'S difficult. You really have to pick you battles if you're looking to emulate this sort of behavior, folks. My two cents.

  • DAZ
    DAZ Před měsícem

    Charisma University knew there would be a promotional at the end of the clip.

  • RAZ_bu
    RAZ_bu Před měsícem

    My little sister watch this video , now she is the big brother

  • mystdaisy
    mystdaisy Před měsícem

    I think, the key is acting like a person who have nothing to lose (which will led you to feel like you can do anything you want) and a little bit of 'I don't give a f*ck' kind of behavior. As long as you can control your own mind over something that you fear or feel weak about, then you can do anything confidently, even if you're in unlucky looking situations (for example If you're afraid of ghost just don't think about ghosts are scary or something that make ghosts look inferior than you, instead try to think something about ghosts that make you feel like they're nothing, for example they're not real or you believe that you can overcome one of them and they're nothing compare to you). You can overcome your limit as long as you never stop to try it

  • Mr. MonkeyMan_95🗿
    Mr. MonkeyMan_95🗿 Před měsícem +2

    I knew that promotion at the end was coming right as soon as you said, "Building confidence isn't as hard as it seems."

  • Bright
    Bright Před měsícem +1

    6:03 Tommy is calm under pressure because he wants to die, he feels he died in the War already, and he hates himself for what he's become.
    It's not a lack of fear, it's a willingness to die

  • Nocky
    Nocky Před 4 měsíci

    I dont really know why but 2:29 was one of the funniest moments in the series for me, I find the sarcasm funny lol. The oxymoron between Thomas Shelby being a serious character then coming out with sarcasm at gun point.

  • Tim Famu
    Tim Famu Před 5 měsíci

    A US Marine once told me, that earn RESPECT never get it! Earned never given!

  • Lyle Baierlein
    Lyle Baierlein Před 5 měsíci +2

    Honestly having a gun pointed at you is an extremely eye opening moment....it shows you who you are, you forget everything else.

  • Lights Out Meditate Relax
    Lights Out Meditate Relax Před měsícem

    Very interesting

  • Greg Bors
    Greg Bors Před 7 měsíci +9484

    Yeah, Cillian Murphy is always charismatic, because he’s a great actor.

    • Jimmy
      Jimmy Před 8 dny

      @Niraj Bro Sammy the bull Gravano.

    • ferni
      ferni Před 9 dny

      God Loves you so much , that he sent his only son Jesus Christ to die for us , because of Christ we can be saved if we turned to him , always have Faith and Pray❤️ Love your enemies and Forgive them as God Will Forgive you too❤️❤️❤️

    • Niraj Bro
      Niraj Bro Před 18 dny

      What's the movie name??

    • 12 ad
      12 ad Před měsícem

      @justin etters you go copy a god damn movie character dont tell other people to do it, you god damn waste of space

    • Thanos
      Thanos Před měsícem

      Jesus is the light: true goodness and righteousness
      - we must let this light be seen through us, and act as vessels for Jesus. We must let people see and understand Jesus through us, by following his teachings and living in a way that God wants us to
      - Jesus' teachings aren't restrictive, but thwy give you true freedom

  • Michael Tait
    Michael Tait Před měsícem +1

    Great video very well documented and perfect on the Intel appreciate you so much thank you amen freedom 💜🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

  • Sukh Mark
    Sukh Mark Před 2 měsíci +1

    The living legend ❤️ mr.shelby

  • John
    John Před měsícem +2

    Its a strange subject , but fascinating .I am over 80 did 8 years of shotokan , but stopped in 1980 .I can't work out why but have noticed sometimes people cross to the other side of the pavement when they are walking towards me .I don't intentionally walk in a intimidating way .In fact a good neighbour of mine did it one day ( I recognised her from a distance .So I stopped her and she said OH John its you .I said why did you cross the road .She could not ( or would not ) explain .
    I have been involved in violence in my life .Maybe the vibes are still there.Fascinating.

  • Haram khor
    Haram khor Před měsícem +3

    This man is not from this world 🌎

  • limitless editz
    limitless editz Před měsícem

    Broo, I apply these methods and I literally gain much respect then before
    Thanks broo 😊 🫂

  • ScreenTalker D
    ScreenTalker D Před 3 měsíci

    I think youre missing the underlining reason why Tommy is so confident. He faced SO MUCH trauma and near death moments in the war, the things going on at home are rather simple to deal with

  • Valentino Pancake
    Valentino Pancake Před 3 měsíci

    This music and all the comments from you kind people warm my heart. Sending my love to you all from Auckland NZ.

  • oscoe
    oscoe Před 2 měsíci +9

    I was once in a situation where my life was threatened. There was no way I could fight my way out of the situation. I was alone. One wrong move and I was potentially dead. I could not run. I could not fight. Basic instinct kicked in and I became “not there”, it was as if I made myself almost invisible. I was still, almost frozen. My lack of reaction to threat saved me. The time that passed, while the threat was deciding what to do saved me. I had 2 minutes where anything could have happened at any moment but it didnt. The minutes passed and I was untouched. Some people who had seen what happened were in shock when the threat left me and they came to speak to me. I couldn’t even really speak but I felt strangely calm. One guy said he was in awe of what he saw he said he was scared and he wasn’t even with me. I went home and didn’t do or say anything. But even though this was nearly 30 years ago I can still recall every detail vividly. It was an intense moment in my life. I think some of the things in this video are kind of human nature in extreme circumstances.

    • Ravacesky *
      Ravacesky * Před měsícem +1

      you were like Drax, you were so incredibly still that no one saw you, Drax, is surely proud of you. good job.

    • PangoGames
      PangoGames Před měsícem

      Ah yes you told your grandma you didn't like the stew. Terrible situation, we're with you brother

    • Jerome Valeska
      Jerome Valeska Před měsícem

      We're not gonna get the story, no point asking. I think the guy was being intentionally vague. Chances are this is pretty personal and traumatizing and he doesn't feel comfortable sharing details.

    • Mike Miller
      Mike Miller Před 2 měsíci

      Story time please

    • Jarryd Lee
      Jarryd Lee Před 2 měsíci

      What happened?

  • Marcus Constantine
    Marcus Constantine Před 7 měsíci +515

    In summary for the average clumsy introvert:
    1. Make reasonably long eye contact. Give a little nod if you wanna be not rude. Smile on command if you know how.
    2. Move slowly and orderly. Erratic movement, confused hands and excessive head turning will ruin the Shelby vibe.
    3. Think before you speak so you can choose the right words and CUT OUT unnecessary things. Talk slowly too.

    • Sebastian C
      Sebastian C Před měsícem +2

      and I thought I was an overthinker

    • Mike Stone
      Mike Stone Před 4 měsíci +1

      Well put

    • [REDACTED]
      [REDACTED] Před 6 měsíci +4

      Sigma grindset 💪😤

    • Henry Adams
      Henry Adams Před 6 měsíci

      @Agni Das deplete their patience, and win

    • Bon Summers
      Bon Summers Před 7 měsíci

      @Marcus Constantine Better to be like the Red Fox.

  • Key
    Key Před měsícem

    This video was helpful for starting 3 seconds as It introduced me to Peaky Blinders. Next on the list to watch. Thank you.

  • mr.amar79
    mr.amar79 Před 5 měsíci

    I'm practicing this tricks for maybe 1 month and I see big result👏👏👏