I know a couple who met because his fiancée was cheating with her fiancé. They literally met in a bar on the night they caught their partners cheating. That was 32 years ago, they've been married for 31 and have two kids together. Some people just make the best of a bad situation...
That's kind of sweet, a good ending to a crappy situation. Reminds me of those people who contact the people their partners are cheating with and then they become friends. I love that energy, so many people get jus as pissed at the other party n half the time they don't even know 😭
I remember a colleague who was married was cheating with another colleague. When the wife found out she came to the office and made everyone know about it including the management. I’ve never seen 2 people getting fired that fast. The CEO just took them from their arms and literally throw them out of the building personally. That was nice to watch. And we had no clue they were cheating.
@Emily N depends on policy. If you are gonna Pursue something, either separate your work places by one getting another job, or start your own company together. No one in the company wants to deal with your romantic shite and all the questionable situations and favoritism and ethical and dishonest problems it brings.
@Emily N psychologically speaking, companies worried if employee dare to cheat their spouse, they dare to cheat something else, company's accounting for example
@Lenusniq _ if they're willing to be dishonest and not abide by a marriage contract, why would they feel any kind of loyalty to any other entity? That's their spouse who should come before a job. I wouldn't want philanderers working for me, I can't trust lying cheats 🤷
As a polyamorous person I absolutely do not understand cheating. Like... If you want to see other people ASK YOUR PARTNER. If they're not okay with that dynamic then you need to stick to being monogamous or leave the relationship.
My bad I tagged the wrong person. if you’re partner is in love with someone else then you have already lost them. Sounds like they just want to have their cake and eat it. They know you love them more and that you don’t want to leave but they want the other person but they are probably concerned that person may not love them as unconditionally as you and will likely leave. They want you because you are comfortable you are guaranteed.
@BoredomBee You're better off without that asshole. I'm sorry that happened to you, though. I swear, some people are just horrible and it makes me wonder how the hell they sleep at night and can live with themselves when they hurt others like that.
True that. I don't get people who cheat, honestly. Like, like if they can't be honest and communicate, they should maybe not even be in a relationship at all. Lmao! It would save their partner/partners from the pain.
Yeah I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone and thinking _"hm! You know what would be fun? What if I just um.... left the person I supposedly love with massive emotional trauma, trust issues and a completely shattered sense of self-worth?"_
@Lilacea i guess its because they dont want that. They want secrets, lies, the thrill of living a double life. They wouldn't be satisfied even IF they had an open relationship. I have heard of people in open relationships that still act shitty. Its a them problem
Can't understand this, if the person wants so bad to be with others while in a relationship, they could have just found someone who wants and likes an open relationship. Why would they insist on taking a path of lies, fights and manipulation? It's harder for them too, so why?!
Yup! I once had a guy tell me polyam wasnt cheating. Well he's right, but forgot that cheating is defined by that relationship's specific boundaries. I would consider cheating to be messing with my friends, hiding partners, lying, manipulating, or hitting on a relative 🤷🏾
I would have called the police the second the girlfriend refused to leave and told me my house wasn't my house. Be like oh it isn't? Let's test that hypothesis shall we?
Right??? She was so calm!! I wouldn’t have even said anything, woulda just yanked her hair and dragged her out of MY bed. She ain’t gonna clean up the love juices anyways, least she can do is relieve your tension right then and there 🤷🏽♀️
4:25 - People who cheat don't love the person they're cheating on, as they don't have the emotional maturity and intelligence (which actual love requires) to stay faithful or fix/end the relationship when they're not happy. Cheating just doesn't make sense to anyone who can genuinely love.
Not cheating is about the kind of person you want to be, it's about wanting to be an honorable person with a developed set of ethics, it's NOT ABOUT WHO YOUR PARTNER IS.
YES ! There always will be at some point someone out there who is going to tempt you. Because it’s life ! There are great people out there ! Some it’s every 7 years…
@KNiGHT Agree to disagree mang, like I really give a crap about people that don't even care about themselves that much, lol. It's not bigotry to believe something like bed hopping is a dirty and degrading act. Get a grip, you're not going to change my mind but you can stop trying to label me and look smart with wrong definitions. Like evryone that disagrees with certain (your) ideas is a bigot now, hypocrite. LOLOL. Why do you keep talking to me if you think I'm a bigot and whatever else? Lol, needing validation much?
@Unacceptable MINion I’m living my life lol. Your actions are not going to change how I live my life. The difference is that I am not criticizing you for your life choices. I am not telling you that your life is “gross” or “wrong.” Because it’s not. There’s nothing wrong with your life except for the fact that you’re trying to spread bigotry lol. But there’s nothing wrong with these people living their life either, and you have no right to criticize them as long as they aren’t hurting anyone. It’s not hypocrisy lol. I’m not trying to change how you life your life. Just trying to combat bigotry and negativity when I see it :)
@KNiGHT Your hypocrisy is showing, why not let me live my life and you live yours, Or you some self appointed social justice warrior? Take your own advice hmmm 🤔😛 IT IS GROSS. I stand by my comment and you can keep crying about it if it bothers you.
@Unacceptable MINion this discussion was actually shockingly respectful given the CHclip comment section, before you decided to take out your insecurities on other people lol. Just let people live their live and go live yours instead of trolling people on the internet. Maybe focus on that guy of yours instead, get some positivity in your life lol.
Oooh I fell that bathroom interaction sooo much! I was not in a bathroom but in a break moment with all my coworkers (mostly ladies) and everyone was sharing what they did the day before.. So there is this thing if you are seeing anyone of the colleagues casually, especially higher grades it's mostly kept hush hush... Not something that most would share with colleagues. So the day before one of the higher ups invite me to go for sightseeing, for me it's pretty normal, walk around, have a nice conversation and just stay outside a bit... thinking nothing of it I went and soon this guy started talking about how much he was making and getting sort of flirty in a way that made me uncomfortable, for his personality, his conversation... All of it. So the next day having a boring gazillion hours to pass with the other coworkers we were talking and I shared that I went sightseeing with said higher-up. All of a sudden I notice one of the girls turned around from making her coffee, with a strange face she asked me if he had invited me for dinner... And she was so anxious as though she wanted me to say "no he didn't" He didn't invite me in fact... But the time we said bye was around dinner time... This coworker then became so silent and you can see something boiling inside her... In fact next thing she does she "takes a walk" I. E. She goes to the higher up in question... What I can only guess is that guy did a "double date" that previous day and invite her for dinner just minutes after saying bye to me. Turns out without saying anything my coworker had found out what kind of man she was getting involved with before it would be too late
I wish my baby's father felt the way you do... I can't believe the effort this man put into cheating. If he put 10th of that into being a father things would be great. This baby was planned. We have been together for 6 years. This is the man I thought was great and who would never ever cheat. I thought he would be the best dad. I can't believe how things turned out.
I’ll say this about the twins.. a friend of mine is white her husband is dark skinned. One of her kids is as dark as him two look mixed but have her blonde hair but curly and her youngest looks completely white! Someone else I went to school with she’s black and her baby dad is white. The baby was white blonde hair blue eyes but she had her moms features and curly hair. So her black mom pushed out a pale blue eyed blond baby with freckles. It happens.
I was in treatment for drug addiction a few years back (clean now). We were sitting in group 4 hrs from home and this girl starts sharing about her sugar daddy. The more she explains him I get more flags. Finally I said what’s his name? She then said my husbands name! I was absolutely EMBARRASSED in front of 40something women. This girl was mortified. She didn’t know 😢
Wow! That was meant to happen, because WHAT ARE THE CHANCES!!! that 2 of you end up to a same place and TALKING about exact situation, giving right details so that you know..... Mad but fair!
The tantruming ex thing - we've seen it a few times. They have the emotional maturity of children, but the capacity to lie like adults. Terrible people.
Left my ex after he was caught cheating . I was gone for 3 days when I got a call from his boss . His boss begged me to take him back and to come see him to talk . Given I was young , I gave a second chance and went back . Second time it happened, I packed up without saying a word and never went back . Man enough to cheat , childish enough to have a tantrum when realizing he did wrong .
@charlottedobre as an FYI your skin tone can be as dark as your darkest parent or as light as your lightest parent (or anywhere in between).... there are even fraternal twins of interracial couples where one twin is black and the other is white (in skin tone)... it just depends which genes you get from each parent and whether they’re recessive or dominant 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🌟🌈 so those twins could be his as the wife was white (and he also probably has some white genetics)
Yes, my dad is white as can be and my mother is Filipino with olive skin that tans very easily. My younger sister is very white as well but I have a darker skin tone like my mother. A lot of teachers don’t realise that we are sisters until they see our last names😂
There’s actually a very famous pair of fraternal twins from ivf where one is pale as pale red head and freckles, and the other is black with a black long afro(white so don’t know the exact name).
That's very true. I have Indonesian blood and I have dark complexion, but my daughter is dark blond with a bit darker skin and my son is just blond and white. I always have to remind myself that he has to have sunscreen even with little bit of sun, because he will burn. My husband was as kid silverblond so he takes after his father. 😅
This was the case with the twins of friends of mine. The girl was a dark as her Ugandan mother, and the boy was as white as his British dad. They both went to the same uni, and, to save money, shared a flat. They'd been there seven or eight months when one of their neighbours (to whom they had never spoken beyond polite greetings) spoke to the girl to warn her that her "boyfriend" was having other girls around when she wasn't there. It was all sorted out with red-faces and laughing. Thoughtful neighbour though.
When my ex got caught he threw the biggest tantrum ever that he had me rename it a "man-trum" cos he's not the 1st I've seen do it 😂 I'm just glad they flipped a mattress at me and I dropped the knife cos I'd be in jail still today. And instead she got to keep him and he had a baby with her sister 🫣😂
I had a client few years back who was married and had two daughters, both under the age of 10 who was cheating with a guy that worked in our same building who was also married and had twins under the age of 10. It was absolutely disgusting. One Valentine’s, they both called out from work & went to a hotel cuz at night they had plans with their spouses. How do I know all this? SHE WOULD TELL ME! While others were around! Zero shame.
@Love YourselfUmm… clearly you don’t know how Poly relationships work… they all have to agree & have constant conversations to make sure there are no issues. Everyone involved discuss in length with eachother & whoever they might bring into their relationship if said person is okay with it. I’m not saying they don’t have problems while Poly but they definitely have better communication in their relationship, due to the dynamics of their type of relationship, compared to people who have monogamous relationships. If you wouldn’t be Poly then don’t be. But don’t shit on a relationship when you clearly know nothing of how it actually works nor those in said type of relationships.
She clearly wanted you to expose them lmao, I mean if you can't even be sneaky about it I definitely ain't covering for you. I'm telling everyone who'll care to listen, especially your spouses.
I agree with Jen. Make a promise, keep a promise. If you're going to change your mind, share that info honestly upfront...and live with the consequences of your decisions. Just sneaking around and lying is a much more severe game changer that does speak to character and integrity. There is no such thing as "Whoops, I did it again."
My stepdad died a few months ago, I obviously I cried and felt bad. The next morning just when I was about to cry because of hime again I found out from my mom that he was cheating with multiple women for years. The day he died was the last day I cried and cared about him. Guess karma got him good huh?
I think these kind of people that like to cheat, need to go find people that just agree to open marriages or open relationships, I think it would save a lot of people that like going steady and being just for that soul person a lot of heartache.
@Alison Cowan Wow? That’s so sad that he cheated even though there was an open relationship! I guess I’ll never understand men., I’ve been married for 25 years and still going, we’ve had some rough patches but we made it through it thank God
Except open marriages and open relationships are dependent on mutual respect - and cheaters have none. My second husband and I had an open relationship, and he cheated. Cheating is about lying and manipulation, it isn't about sex. Sex is just the "reward" for lying "successfully".
Exactly!! But I also think that some cheaters just like the thrill of it, as bad as it is, with no regards on hurting their SO's feelings. I hate it when I see tinder profiles with guys just bluntly saying that they're married and want a little "secret adventure" on the side! It makes my blood boil!! And for the amount of similar profiles I see, it makes me believe that a lot of people knowingly want to be the "other one". 😑
My aunt found out her husband was not only cheating on her but also had 2 babies on the way by 2 different women. She invited both women plus his first child mother to her house. Once they got there she called him to come home. She said he walked in he stopped and looked at all of them he didn’t say anything just walked to their room and started packing his things then left.
@Kaihiro Ku Unfortunately he more than likely will try to dodge the responsibilies of the kids. I feel bad for all four of those women who probably had no idea what was going on behind their backs.
He accepted his fate before they even had to say anything. He knew it was over before the confrontation even began. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know your marriage is finished when your partner locates and personally invites over the people you've been cheating on them with to let you know that they know exactly what you've been up to.
Long story short, but I went to high school with girl #1 and her long term boyfriend. I ended up working with the bf, and just making innocent conversation, I asked him if he was still going out with girl #1 in front of our coworkers, including girl #2. What followed was the most awkward silence I've ever experienced, and I later found out guy was cheating on girl #1 with girl #2 and it was sort of an open secret and everyone knew about it but didn't talk about it. (Girl #1 had been told, but she was just in denial). Fast forward 15 years and I hear girl #1 was getting divorced from the bf because of his chronic cheating. TLDR: once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't find that out the hard way, people!
The amber thing seems like both parties might be doing it for attention, however the “first incidence of amber cheating” was actually her being assaulted by a presumed male friend by how she talks about being drunk and remembering hugging said friend goodbye then waking up on the same bed with him sticking his hand down her pants the next morning…yeah, I would call that sa, not cheating.
You could hear the children in the background when the woman was kicking out her husband and the mystery woman. How awful of a person do you have to be to do such a thing in front of your kids and allow another woman to disrespect your wife in the process. I’m glad she’s divorcing that man, neither her nor her children deserve that.
My boyfriends bio mother is one of those. This woman was the absolute worst of the worst I'm talking narcissistic, pathological liar, sociopath, abusive, manipulative, gold digging b itch. On new years I spent the day with my boyfriend and his parents (father and step mother). His dad got to talking about how she baby trapped him with my boyfriend at 17 years old (she was only 15) and made him marry her. She cheated on him a lot. Like basicslky every single month they were together (including before eand during baby trap) she had a different man in their bed. After bf was born she refused to work. She didn't want anything to do with being a good mother and just wanted to sit around and watch TV while his dad raised the baby(ies) and worked to keep the bills paid. They ended up losing their house and moving in with his dads parents who kept them fed, and never charged them a thing. His dad went to his brother's wedding for a weekend and the bio mom left the kids with grandparents and went away for the weekend with a rich old (like disgustingly old man) my boyfriend was 11 when he first saw his mom's boyfriend's before his parents were even divorced. She then lied to his dad saying her mom was sick and she needed to go visit him in South Dakota. She took all three kids and never came home. She ended up neglecting, and resenting her oldest kid (my boyfriend). He has a scar the entire length of his palm and across his pinky to where he cant even cold his pinky any more, from where she used a broken mop handle to abuse him. He had to run away from her and ended up in Arizona living with his dad. It's been about 4-5 years since. I have met this woman in a desprate attempt to get to know his siblings. She grabbed me by the arm called me a whore who's trapping her son and he's far too young ( we were both 17, I feel the need to say we are 20 and childless and still together so that's a one up on her lol). She likes to the two younger siblings about how much their dad doesn't want to see them. Except for when she wanted to take her new husband's kids to Disney land and not her own. Then all of a sudden their dad wanted to give things a shot according to her. She fucked up a whole lot of people's lives and I literally can't say any more for legal reasons but just know it does NOT end there
@Chuck MissildineThe mom put it out on TikTok & this girl reacted to it. If you don’t like it because kids were around at the time of this going on… blame the dad & his side chick (cause they’re still legally married at the time from what I gathered) for making it an issue by disrespecting the mother, IN HER OWN HOME, after she was kind enough to let HIM, not anyone else, HIM stay the night for ONE night. He should’ve had enough respect for the mother of his kids & his children to not create an issue like he did. And the side chick should have had respect for herself to not be a disgusting piece of shit by acting the way she did when told to leave a house that she doesn’t own.
@Chuck Missildine I highly doubt they are watching this video. Also, she was on the girls side who was getting cheated on. Did you even watch the video?
Everytime I got cheated on I always thought I did something wrong for that to happen. Like what did I do or what is so wrong with me for that to have to happen to me. Cause if it's happening for no reason it's just so heart breaking, gut wrenching, and soul crushing. Then they just go about their day like nothing's wrong. Will never understand how any person is able to do that to someone.
I wish I have had someone telling me all this before I got married. My husband of 25 years used to behave like a dictator and all the red flags were there. Emotional abuse is a serious problem in a relationship. From emotional abuse, cheating started.THANK YOU MAXIMAN34 for posting this time to get me all the evidence.👆👆👆. ..............
My wife was my my first and only girlfriend. I started courting her when I was 30. She also doesn't wear makeup. This was even before I met her. So, the face I see during the day time is the face I get to look at when I wake up in the morning. Yes, my wife has natural beauty. It is so wonderful. She has nothing to hide. I am no one without my wife
I'm assuming that the one where the lady convinced her husband to have another kid that they used a sperm donor. Infertility is something a lot of people struggle with. Twins are more common with some fertility procedures. Which makes me think it's even more likely to have been a sperm donor
It’s always funny when like two cheaters get together and they’re both actively cheating on their partners and blowing up all the lives simultaneously around them... cough ned fulmer cough
psychology says that cheating is common for people who have issues with commitment (even for married ones) and who are control freaks. That would explain why cheaters get angry when caught - they lose control.
the guy who cheated on her with 3 girls was probs just in it to look cool and the girls where probs in it for the money apart from his actual girl friend. its really messed up that how people do that.
My dad decided to tell my mother over 20 years after the fact that he had been cheating on her throughout their early relationship until she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. At the time they had two small children. He knew her feelings on cheating, and he waited until she was so sick she absolutely needed him to function day to day to tell her. Or rather to clean his own conscience. The knowledge didn't do anything helpful or healing for her. I hope any cheaters who got away with it and feel guilty about it take this little nugget of advice. Your partner is happier not knowing and you deserve the guilt that keeps you up at night. Keep it to yourself and maybe your kids won't hate you.
@TShirtAndReeboks They had a right to not be cheated on too. Obviously the cheater didn't care about that, why is caring about the "truth" more valuable than honoring a monogamous relationship? After 20 some odd years, when your partner can no longer function without you, and has always expressed how unforgivable cheating is to them, the truth is no longer in the innocent party's best interest, at least it wasn't in my mother's. It broke her heart and soured the last 39 years of marriage for her. Now she feels trapped with a man she no longer trusts, and she's too sick and tired to leave. She's said herself she wished he'd kept his lying mouth shut, his peace of mind wasn't worth shattering her world.
I found with my ex-boyfriend that it was more the fun of being sneaky and seeing if he could get by with it. These men/women are still children or high schoolers who never grew up mentally.
Just saying for those who need to hear it after "You know what's cool? Being monogamous", being polyamorous, respectful of your partners AND being honest to them is also valid! 👍🏻👍🏻
@somo mm Yup, I was in an open relationship even and I still asked for permission to see people, keep my partner updated, made sure I was safe etc. Communication is key. And not doing things secretly
Yes, I'm not currently polyamorous but I'm not strictly opposed to it but trying to explain that polyamory is not an open pass to cheat with who ever to someone opposed to the idea or just ignorant of what it actually entails is headache inducing. Monogamous is cool but not the only way to be in a healthy stable relationship. Like you said it's about respect and honesty
Charlotte thank you for pointing out that it's NOT because of imperfections that we get cheated on. It's because of the flaws of the CHEATER. AMEN girl! Amen.
@Jennifer Hendricks If you think your spouse doesn't care about you, break up with them. What's cheating going to do? Upset them? Like what is the point in trying to hurt someone by cheating on them if you don't think they give a shit about you to begin with. If you've tried all avenues of communication and your needs in the relationship still aren't being met, leave.
That depends. Sometimes people can cheat because their spouse doesn't care about them and vice versa. While Stolas and Stella in Hellava Boss is fiction, it can happen in real life.
@Sarah Novella yeah i think the options thing might be true for SOME people, but i think to generalize this would be buying into the myth that "men just can't help themselves", or "ppl need variation for XYZ [insert bs pseudoscientific reason that rests on biases only]" or whatever. I think this myth is propagated by people who want this to be true and excuse themselves for cheating, yet not wanting any kind of open relationship or poly life (which, why not, huh!??) I got tons of options tbh and i feel ZERO inclined to use them, cos i love my partner and only want them. From the bottom of my heart, I'm just not interested, and if i ever am, id break up first before destroying my partner cos I'm a selfish pos.
Friendly reminder to everybody that polyamorous relationships can be healthy because polyamory is *not* the same as cheating, monogamy is not the only way to be happy! It’s cheating if you partner doesn’t know/doesn’t consent to you being with other people while in a relationship with them, and polyamory comes in different ways; whether polyamory for you means you and your partners all are together and all love each other or if your partner knows and okay with you being with other people (as long as you are transparent with them about what you do with that other person/people) and of course, set up boundaries with each other
If that was my house there wouldn’t have been any “reasoning” happening. My concealed carry would have come out of its holster and cops called and charges made for trespassing. Period.
Oh that second thing happened to me. I used my husband at the times truck to take our son to the doctor, he did not tell me that his tag was expired and that he had no insurance. I got pulled over and got two tickets. He told me that he took care of the tickets. Now keep in mind we are separated because I had just found out that he had cheated on me with 37 other women. I had just gotten my own place but his parents had given the trailer that we were living in before to his brother. Flash Forward about 6 weeks and I get pulled over in my own car with our children and find out that I have a warrant out for my arrest for missing a court date that I shouldn't have had to go to because I thought the ticket was paid. While I'm in jail I call him to check on our kids who were very traumatized about having to sit there and watch their mommy get arrested. I got to say though that the cop who arrested me was very very sweet he actually got in the car with us and talked to my babies and told them that nothing bad was going to happen to me that I was perfectly safe that I would be home in a few days and then everything was fine he let them know that you know the cops were not bad guys that they were not going to hurt me, that no one was going to hurt me, and that kind of stuff and left me uncuffed sitting in my own car with my kids until someone got there to pick them up. Anyway, while talking to David he tells me that his parents who he had been staying with got pissed off at him and wouldn't let him stay there with the kids anymore and he didn't have anywhere to go. It turns out that they had gotten pissed off at him because he was sleeping all day waking up eating something and going back to bed and leaving the kids for them to take care of so these psychos kicked out not only him but my children because my children weren't being taken care of. So I call my mother tell her to give David the key to my house so that my kids could sleep in their own rooms. When I finally get out of jail a few days later I find a woman's razor in my shower, a pair of another woman's panties in my bed, a lipstick on my bathroom counter. And my children call my phone and they are in another state with my husband at one of his girlfriend's houses and they are locked outside while he is inside with the girl for hours and of course they don't know the address all they know is that it's in Georgia so I have no way to call the police to go get my children I just stayed on the phone with them for nearly 5 hours until David finally let them in and I was able to talk to him and tell him I was out of jail and please bring my kids home. That particular woman whose house it was ended up killing my husband about 4 days later. She shot him in the throat and I buried him on his 28th birthday
If you want to be poly, or have an open relationship, you need to not only discuss that openly with your partner, but have them willingly consent! If they aren't comfortable with that, and you cant be monogamous, then give them the respect of walking away and finding are partner whos okay with it. Dont just cheat because you feel you can get away with it.
@David Guidry Could you point to where the commented asked for her to be required to do anything? You seem to be equating mild and respectful criticism with something else. Nobody is being disrespectful here to charlotte. I love her. I doubt she meant any disrespect either.
@Michaela Walker I’m sure it is. This is not a polyamorous video tho. A lot of assumptions are being made instead of taking it at face value. The boundaries of an allegedly monogamous relationship were crossed and so Miss Charlotte addressed that.
1:35 being polyamorous is also cool, as long as you communicate with your partner. If you have interest in multiple partners and they don’t, then they aren’t right for ya.
This is the power of social media, once one person knows you’re cheating on your partner, then EVERYONE knows because everyone joins in the hunt of finding the person being cheated on to inform them
This reminds me so much of 8 years ago. Me and my now husband were part of several arcade gaming and competitive groups. And there was this one guy that always hung out with us to train because we were around the same range of skill level so we became quite close. I became friends with his gf cause he would bring her along. After about a year, he got quite popular because he got really good in the games we were competing in and would start bringing in several different girl “friends” every training session. Then some years later, I was invited into a facebook group by his former gf, and now ex-fiance. Turns out that they were supposed to get married but she found out that the guy was rotating through more than a dozen women and they were all clueless of each other’s existence until they were all brought into that facebook group. And I was invited there to be their witness so I got to witness all the craziness. 😅
I am a kid of two notorious cheaters, and even though my parents divorced when I was only 7 years old because of the same reasons, I was able to witness them continuing to cheat on their new partners. The end of the story is - I always ran at the first tiny sign of imbalance in my marriage, engagement or any other relationship. Never waited long enough to be cheated on, and since I had the perfect opportunity to watch and learn as a child, I always knew way before things would go south. ...now I live a happily ever after perfect single life with my horses and dogs - basically the bad a** version of a crazy cat lady - Army vet, always 40 out of 40, renovating an old house built in 1900, fixing my Jeep, starting my own horses and rescuing little mutts. And drinking Jack&Coke. 😅
I'm non-monogamous. The two biggest factors contributing to this are: 1) rubbing my genitals against someone else's genitals doesn't actually prevent me from prioritizing a life partner, the same way that going out to watch a movie doesn't; and 2) my body belongs to me and only me, no one else gets to claim ownership over it. That being said, I'm straightforward about how I feel with all my partners, and they know not to expect perfect monogamy from me. Honesty is very important to me, so people who lie and sneak around and who are disingenuous really piss me off. If I meet a person I like and wanna flirt with / whatever, I'm not thinking about being sneaky regarding my partner, I'm thinking, "Oh, this is what I feel like doing right now." Like, this and that are two separate things, to me. But of course I acknowledge that not everyone feels this way. Thought sharing would be worthwhile since "I don't understand" is a common response to non-monogamy.
My now ex boyfriend ironically enough loves your videos. I became pregnant this year, to which he proceeded to cheat on me with several women while I helped pay the bills while he was in between jobs. He was taking them on dates and leaving me with his sons from his previous marriage (I love my step sons, so I don’t mind but I had a rough pregnancy and could barely walk) at home alone while he went out to the bar and drank. One of the girls he was talking to was his ex girlfriend from high school that he was sexting back and forth and exchanging nudes with. I was completely oblivious, and his ex knew he and I were dating. It gets better though. He also as it turns out has an only fans where he was paying for subscriptions the entire time, one of which was for a stripper he cheated on his ex wife with which I found out later on. He refused to buy me flowers and it got to where I was the one coming home, taking care of my step sons, cleaning house, and then exhausted and asking just to be comforted because I was stressed. He refused to help with the house or comfort me with even just a hug. I left him at first, and then he begged for me back and swore he would go to therapy, stop drinking, and would stop going to the bar. I gave birth, and from there he broke every single promise and was still cheating on me I found out. He also refused to help me with our newborn, so I was healing from stitches, facing postpartum depression, sleep deprived, and dealing with our newborn (who has colic) completely alone. The night I left, he had been at the bar for 5-6 hours and then came back, got angry when I called him out for not helping me, and then threw the baby carrier and the bassinet across the room screaming at me that it’s his house and I need to get the fuck out. When I went to leave and put the baby in the carrier, he grabbed onto the carrier and told me I could leave but that I had to leave the baby. I had to call the police to have him give the baby back to me, and the next day he wouldn’t let me get me or the baby’s things including diapers, formula, clothes, all of which were gifts from friends or I had paid for out of my pocket. Since leaving, he doesn’t ask how the baby is or if he can see him despite me pushing for him to be a part of the baby’s life. When I asked for help with buying formula since our baby has really bad colic and is also lactose intolerant, he blocked me. It’s been an extremely hard lesson, but I’ve really learned that you truly don’t know a person until you have their child. Because after opening up about what I endured with him, I’ve found it’s sadly extremely common for women to be cheated on during pregnancy. And Joey, if you’re reading this, you should be ashamed of yourself
@IsabellaSoto maybe being in between jobs changed his personality although that's not a good excuse in regards to how you were treated but could be a possibility.
@Cryssyyxx I wasn’t supposed to be able to have children. I was told that due to my PCOS that I would have to try IVF if I even wanted to attempt to have children. My son was a very large surprise for us both. And while there are red flags you can get from people, he never acted the way he did even remotely during my pregnancy
I'm sorry to say but u can definitely learn who someone is before having their kid the problem is people date someone for a year or 2 and decide to have their baby instead of waiting longer or ignoring red flags.
@Daphney Donegan I agree, but that was also the worst part. I’ve been around his family, we have the same friends, and it was almost as soon as I became pregnant that suddenly his entire behavior changed against me
The thing that still makes me angry about previous unfaithful partner is not them, the lying, the gaslighting, the blatant disrespect or the side pieces. It's the fact that i will forever question anyone's motivations. My husband, friends, children, coworkers. Any possible connection i make is always tainted by doubt and then shame for not being able to trust. THAT is rage inducing and makes me wish fervently for the duplicitous toads down fall.
@Tea laBlu That's someone who believes he should be in control. How many others? Don't let him lead you. Don't give him a dime AND don't give him your heart.
And this is why I’m Aroace! (Not really it’s just cause I’ve never felt attracted by anyone romantically or sexually) Honestly relationships sound like a pain. But I hope cheaters get what they deserve. And y’all who were cheated on? Go make sure to get some revenge!
I did cheat once, and I owned up to it, but the thing is the guy I slept with had gotten me drunk when I let him crash in my dorm after he was kicked out of the house.... I'm on perscription meds you can't drink on, so like I know I fucked up but I pretty much had to be roofied to do it and he filmed it and sent it to my boyfriend at the time
10:32 do people not realize that the mother has light skin? both of the twins can inherit a one of the parents skin tone and not the other (in this example, the babies most likely got their mothers skin tone.) and even if both parents had dark skin, there’s still a possibility that the babies inherited it from another member in the family (preferably someone white since, well you saw the babies.)
Agree completely. How can you trust a family member who disregards basic boundaries? That brings risks of disease and conflicting valuables into the home? What if you have children? What values does a thrill seeker cheater share?
Once a cheat, always a cheat. If they're willing to cheat with you, they will cheat on you, too. Also, "I had to cheat to be sure I really wanted to be with you " is the lamest excuse ever. A leopard doesn't change it's spots.
@Jennifer Bates yeah I don't disagree that some people take longer to mature and have other things developmentally holding them back or make them more prone to be impulsive but at some point it's not a valid excuse. If you are a "functioning" adult in a monogamous relationship and you make the choice to cheat, physical or emotional, you are not a good person. Then you have the choice to make chnages/get help to be better or continue being destructive.
@Vio A couple of ways: * Using your money on others without your partner knowing, and vice versa. * many people have financial Doms, people who tell them how to spend their money. * Lying about money, like amassing debt without your partners knowledge, and vice versa.
@Halyson The brain isn't fully formed until you're 25. Our mental, physical, emotional and sexual health are ALL connected. So there's a lot going on. There's many kinds of cheating as well, financial, emotional, physical and sexual. I understand what you mean though. My point is that no 2 humans grow and mature at the same rate. So nothing is set in stone. I work as a Sex Coach and an ADHD Coach.
@Jennifer Bates If you're in you're late teens/early 20s, it's a shit thing to do but everyone does stuff they regret at that age but they grow up and make better choices. Once you're past that stage or in a serious relationship there's no excuse and you're a shit person.
I have been with my husband for 10 years and the thought of being with someone seriously grosses me out I would never do that to him or us it’s so fucked… we also deleted our social media and couldn’t be happier…… just leave the person and then your less of an asshole
Putting in my two cents for 1:38. Being polyamorous is okay IF you talk and communicate with your partner(s) first. Being poly is also no excuse to go behind your partners back, you should not do that EVER.
My ex cheated on me and his dumb ass was grabbing on this old lady literally two feet in front of me and didn’t even see me standing there. So I shook her hand and said you must be the new Mrs bleh bleh I’m the ex he’s all yours now. He keeps stammering saying this is just the lady I’m renting a room to. She kept yelling at him who is that WHO IS THAT!!!! I just walked away smiling. I am surprised I handled it this way I always thought I would loose my mind. He was cheating for the entire 15 years we were together
Someone might argue with me over this but if you truly love the person you're with you will not cheat if you cheat you don't really love them you're more concerned with what pleasure you feel
I was cheated on once. Really just came out of nowhere. It was an insane feeling. My boss at the time told me some great advice. “ A man can have a steak in the freezer but he’s going out for McDonald’s” real talk.
I agree Charlotte. How did Erica's cheatin BF get with "those" ladies?!?! They were like, blurry 7's+ and he was a chunky 3...maybe. Wow, impressed by Mr Gulia. :P
"you know whats cool? Being monogamous and respectful of your partner!" me and my partner both being poly: oh shi- This was ment as a joke lol i get what she was saying this was just funny to me.
I cheated many times on my ex bf and I regret it so much. I used to say I cheated cause he lived in Texas and I live in California. we where best friends and 2 years later I got with him. 2 weeks later he moved back to Texas and I haven’t seen him a little over a year. he found out I cheated on him with 2 guys. Jose and August. I blocked August and I stayed with Jose. I shared my first kiss and touch with Jose. found out he was only going to use me for my body. by the way he’s 18. we where gonna go to a game but not to watch it. we where gonna have sex. I am not 17 or 18. I am only 14 years old. and because I thought I loved him I agreed to have sex with him. he was cheating on me with my best friend. he had jacked photos of women on his phone. he used to touch me in places I didn’t like. he said it’s ok and it’s what bf and gf do. I was dumb. this happed 2 months ago.
After a couple months of dating this guy I found out from a friend of a friend of a friend that he had a girlfriend.... that he lived with. Girlfriend was kind enough to reach out to me. I apologized profusely. She said it wasn't the first time and she was done with him. We talked for quite a long time and found out we had a lot in common (besides him). She invited me to come over and hang out for a while and to surprise him when he got home. I suppose it could have been a trap but it wasn't. We were hanging out in the living room eating pizza and drinking beer when he came home. He was completely casual when he walked in the door and saw both of us there chilling in the living room. He said "Hey ladies, lemme grab a beer." He strolled past us into the kitchen, but instead of hearing the refrigerator open we heard the back door open and he exited. And he never came back! We hung out for a couple hours before I eventually left. He never returned. About a week later he sent some friends over to get his stuff. Girlfriend and I have now been besties for years.
The thing with the dog shelter.. just do that but send them to go buy some milk at the grocery store and then call them, ask if they found the milk and after break up 😂
I'm curious about mystery woman who refused to leave. Why would you go home with a guy who has nowhere to take you but asks to use his exes' house? Even if you were into him before, I'd think you'd be out once you realize you're going to his exes' house. It'd be obvious from the home that a woman and children live there. So either you'd assume he's married and lives there, or it's not his home.
10:50 males look like their mother, female looks like their fathers. If the babies were born with recesive genes (white skin) instead of dominant genes (dark skin) they will look like the mom no matter if the father is dark skinned.
My ex cheated on me with my best friend. I caught them and we all worked together so Monday shift was interesting but I was over it. I sent her a sympathy card on the first anniversary, they married and he cheated on her but not with me I don’t have sloppy seconds
Being non monogamous is also absolutely cool and fine, as long as you are ethical aboàut it, i.e everyone is consenting to it. Cheating also exist in non monogamy ;)
Ask my ex. Many years of getting caught cheating and no remorse whatsoever. I took too long to close that door 🚪. Granted, she was pretty vindictive, so it took a while for it to be her idea to divorce and I just went along. Easy peasy and now we are friends (kid together), even with her new sucke err husband.
people cheat because they need attention, because they crave the drama, because they have problems, maybe problems they’ve grown up with their whole lives. Whatever it may be, it was never about you darling, and they always knew they weren’t good enough for you so they had to prove it 💅🏼
You can @ me for being judgmental all you want, but I'm just gonna say it. The vid where his gf invited all the girls the bf cheated with over at the same time. How the hell did that dude pull those girls. I call no way. You know you're thinking it.
I been faithful & everything my bfs have asked me to be for them & yet every single relationship I've been in I've been lied to, cheated on & gas lighted..... I'm only getting dogs for the rest of my life no more men
I know a couple who met because his fiancée was cheating with her fiancé. They literally met in a bar on the night they caught their partners cheating. That was 32 years ago, they've been married for 31 and have two kids together. Some people just make the best of a bad situation...
Just give me full story bro 🙂🙂
@Kiki V Pitch it to Hallmark! Ask your friends permission too!.
That’s like wife swap 😂
That's kind of sweet, a good ending to a crappy situation. Reminds me of those people who contact the people their partners are cheating with and then they become friends. I love that energy, so many people get jus as pissed at the other party n half the time they don't even know 😭
This sounds like a Reddit post 💀
I remember a colleague who was married was cheating with another colleague. When the wife found out she came to the office and made everyone know about it including the management. I’ve never seen 2 people getting fired that fast. The CEO just took them from their arms and literally throw them out of the building personally. That was nice to watch. And we had no clue they were cheating.
My ex was cheating with a coworker. I considered very strongly doing the same thing. Wish I had.
The grass is gonna love that chlorine 😂
@Emily N depends on policy. If you are gonna Pursue something, either separate your work places by one getting another job, or start your own company together. No one in the company wants to deal with your romantic shite and all the questionable situations and favoritism and ethical and dishonest problems it brings.
@Emily N psychologically speaking, companies worried if employee dare to cheat their spouse, they dare to cheat something else, company's accounting for example
@Lenusniq _ if they're willing to be dishonest and not abide by a marriage contract, why would they feel any kind of loyalty to any other entity? That's their spouse who should come before a job. I wouldn't want philanderers working for me, I can't trust lying cheats 🤷
For the woman trying to convince the mom 'it wasn't her house' best response should've been "Then why did my keys work?"
Isn’t that wild??? I woulda pulled the trespassing card and just pulled her hair to get her out of my bed, no warning, just get out
As a polyamorous person I absolutely do not understand cheating. Like... If you want to see other people ASK YOUR PARTNER. If they're not okay with that dynamic then you need to stick to being monogamous or leave the relationship.
My bad I tagged the wrong person. if you’re partner is in love with someone else then you have already lost them. Sounds like they just want to have their cake and eat it. They know you love them more and that you don’t want to leave but they want the other person but they are probably concerned that person may not love them as unconditionally as you and will likely leave. They want you because you are comfortable you are guaranteed.
@BoredomBee as a polyam person, I am so sorry. That sounds fked up 😕
@BoredomBee You're better off without that asshole. I'm sorry that happened to you, though. I swear, some people are just horrible and it makes me wonder how the hell they sleep at night and can live with themselves when they hurt others like that.
True that. I don't get people who cheat, honestly. Like, like if they can't be honest and communicate, they should maybe not even be in a relationship at all. Lmao! It would save their partner/partners from the pain.
@jman217 monopoly
Yeah I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone and thinking _"hm! You know what would be fun? What if I just um.... left the person I supposedly love with massive emotional trauma, trust issues and a completely shattered sense of self-worth?"_
@AkiLucky AkiLucky exactly some people are narcissistic and those people get off on the thrill of manipulation which honesty doesn’t give
@Lilacea i guess its because they dont want that. They want secrets, lies, the thrill of living a double life. They wouldn't be satisfied even IF they had an open relationship. I have heard of people in open relationships that still act shitty. Its a them problem
Can't understand this, if the person wants so bad to be with others while in a relationship, they could have just found someone who wants and likes an open relationship. Why would they insist on taking a path of lies, fights and manipulation? It's harder for them too, so why?!
right??? i dont get it!!
Just wanted to clear something up she said in the beginning. CHEATING IS STILL POSSIBLE IN A POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIP
Yup! I once had a guy tell me polyam wasnt cheating. Well he's right, but forgot that cheating is defined by that relationship's specific boundaries. I would consider cheating to be messing with my friends, hiding partners, lying, manipulating, or hitting on a relative 🤷🏾
Exactly. If your partner is unaware of someone else in your bed that's cheating
I would have called the police the second the girlfriend refused to leave and told me my house wasn't my house. Be like oh it isn't? Let's test that hypothesis shall we?
Right??? She was so calm!! I wouldn’t have even said anything, woulda just yanked her hair and dragged her out of MY bed. She ain’t gonna clean up the love juices anyways, least she can do is relieve your tension right then and there 🤷🏽♀️
4:25 - People who cheat don't love the person they're cheating on, as they don't have the emotional maturity and intelligence (which actual love requires) to stay faithful or fix/end the relationship when they're not happy. Cheating just doesn't make sense to anyone who can genuinely love.
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Not cheating is about the kind of person you want to be, it's about wanting to be an honorable person with a developed set of ethics, it's NOT ABOUT WHO YOUR PARTNER IS.
YES ! There always will be at some point someone out there who is going to tempt you. Because it’s life ! There are great people out there ! Some it’s every 7 years…
This comment, this one right here is the bottom line!
Yes but we are living in era where bad ethics are encouraged and considered COOL and good one is lame and close minded
Well said
Facts because even beyonce got cheated on 😏
I'm polyamorous, but I fully believe in transparency between me and my partners
@KNiGHT Agree to disagree mang, like I really give a crap about people that don't even care about themselves that much, lol. It's not bigotry to believe something like bed hopping is a dirty and degrading act. Get a grip, you're not going to change my mind but you can stop trying to label me and look smart with wrong definitions. Like evryone that disagrees with certain (your) ideas is a bigot now, hypocrite. LOLOL. Why do you keep talking to me if you think I'm a bigot and whatever else? Lol, needing validation much?
@Unacceptable MINion I’m living my life lol. Your actions are not going to change how I live my life. The difference is that I am not criticizing you for your life choices. I am not telling you that your life is “gross” or “wrong.” Because it’s not. There’s nothing wrong with your life except for the fact that you’re trying to spread bigotry lol. But there’s nothing wrong with these people living their life either, and you have no right to criticize them as long as they aren’t hurting anyone. It’s not hypocrisy lol. I’m not trying to change how you life your life. Just trying to combat bigotry and negativity when I see it :)
@KNiGHT Your hypocrisy is showing, why not let me live my life and you live yours, Or you some self appointed social justice warrior? Take your own advice hmmm 🤔😛 IT IS GROSS. I stand by my comment and you can keep crying about it if it bothers you.
@Unacceptable MINion this discussion was actually shockingly respectful given the CHclip comment section, before you decided to take out your insecurities on other people lol. Just let people live their live and go live yours instead of trolling people on the internet. Maybe focus on that guy of yours instead, get some positivity in your life lol.
@Unacceptable MINion i don’t feel demeaned lol. But you are definitely demeaning other people. There’s a distinction there.
Oooh I fell that bathroom interaction sooo much! I was not in a bathroom but in a break moment with all my coworkers (mostly ladies) and everyone was sharing what they did the day before.. So there is this thing if you are seeing anyone of the colleagues casually, especially higher grades it's mostly kept hush hush... Not something that most would share with colleagues. So the day before one of the higher ups invite me to go for sightseeing, for me it's pretty normal, walk around, have a nice conversation and just stay outside a bit... thinking nothing of it I went and soon this guy started talking about how much he was making and getting sort of flirty in a way that made me uncomfortable, for his personality, his conversation... All of it. So the next day having a boring gazillion hours to pass with the other coworkers we were talking and I shared that I went sightseeing with said higher-up. All of a sudden I notice one of the girls turned around from making her coffee, with a strange face she asked me if he had invited me for dinner... And she was so anxious as though she wanted me to say "no he didn't"
He didn't invite me in fact... But the time we said bye was around dinner time...
This coworker then became so silent and you can see something boiling inside her... In fact next thing she does she "takes a walk" I. E. She goes to the higher up in question...
What I can only guess is that guy did a "double date" that previous day and invite her for dinner just minutes after saying bye to me.
Turns out without saying anything my coworker had found out what kind of man she was getting involved with before it would be too late
bosses dating underlings is also a very scummy and sometimes illegal thing why would you even participate in that
I wish my baby's father felt the way you do... I can't believe the effort this man put into cheating. If he put 10th of that into being a father things would be great. This baby was planned. We have been together for 6 years. This is the man I thought was great and who would never ever cheat. I thought he would be the best dad. I can't believe how things turned out.
You don't need him hun you are great without him fuck him and fuck all men we don't need them women are fabulous without them
I’ll say this about the twins.. a friend of mine is white her husband is dark skinned. One of her kids is as dark as him two look mixed but have her blonde hair but curly and her youngest looks completely white!
Someone else I went to school with she’s black and her baby dad is white. The baby was white blonde hair blue eyes but she had her moms features and curly hair. So her black mom pushed out a pale blue eyed blond baby with freckles.
It happens.
My daughter is mixed, shes got blonde haired blue eyed babies 💜💙 genetics are great!
I was in treatment for drug addiction a few years back (clean now). We were sitting in group 4 hrs from home and this girl starts sharing about her sugar daddy. The more she explains him I get more flags. Finally I said what’s his name? She then said my husbands name! I was absolutely EMBARRASSED in front of 40something women. This girl was mortified. She didn’t know 😢
Wow! That was meant to happen, because WHAT ARE THE CHANCES!!! that 2 of you end up to a same place and TALKING about exact situation, giving right details so that you know..... Mad but fair!
Divine intervention
Congrats on being sober.
As for that girl she must have been horrified she not only outed her SD but to a woman she knew!
Dang...I don't know what to say except sorry for pert of you two ladies.
Grats on being clean, super proud of you! Stay strong
The tantruming ex thing - we've seen it a few times. They have the emotional maturity of children, but the capacity to lie like adults. Terrible people.
Left my ex after he was caught cheating . I was gone for 3 days when I got a call from his boss . His boss begged me to take him back and to come see him to talk . Given I was young , I gave a second chance and went back . Second time it happened, I packed up without saying a word and never went back . Man enough to cheat , childish enough to have a tantrum when realizing he did wrong .
@Mae Anne Ngo the only thing I can think of , crocodiles tears in front of his boss . It was pathetic and I was dumb enough to fall for the BS .
the ex probably faked the call
Why did his boss begged you to take back your ex?
@charlottedobre as an FYI your skin tone can be as dark as your darkest parent or as light as your lightest parent (or anywhere in between).... there are even fraternal twins of interracial couples where one twin is black and the other is white (in skin tone)... it just depends which genes you get from each parent and whether they’re recessive or dominant 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🌟🌈 so those twins could be his as the wife was white (and he also probably has some white genetics)
Thank you for that. I have interracial children and grandchildren and I have never understood why people don’t get this concept. Genetics, baby!
Yes, my dad is white as can be and my mother is Filipino with olive skin that tans very easily. My younger sister is very white as well but I have a darker skin tone like my mother. A lot of teachers don’t realise that we are sisters until they see our last names😂
There’s actually a very famous pair of fraternal twins from ivf where one is pale as pale red head and freckles, and the other is black with a black long afro(white so don’t know the exact name).
That's very true. I have Indonesian blood and I have dark complexion, but my daughter is dark blond with a bit darker skin and my son is just blond and white. I always have to remind myself that he has to have sunscreen even with little bit of sun, because he will burn. My husband was as kid silverblond so he takes after his father. 😅
This was the case with the twins of friends of mine. The girl was a dark as her Ugandan mother, and the boy was as white as his British dad.
They both went to the same uni, and, to save money, shared a flat.
They'd been there seven or eight months when one of their neighbours (to whom they had never spoken beyond polite greetings) spoke to the girl to warn her that her "boyfriend" was having other girls around when she wasn't there.
It was all sorted out with red-faces and laughing. Thoughtful neighbour though.
When my ex got caught he threw the biggest tantrum ever that he had me rename it a "man-trum" cos he's not the 1st I've seen do it 😂 I'm just glad they flipped a mattress at me and I dropped the knife cos I'd be in jail still today. And instead she got to keep him and he had a baby with her sister 🫣😂
I had a client few years back who was married and had two daughters, both under the age of 10 who was cheating with a guy that worked in our same building who was also married and had twins under the age of 10. It was absolutely disgusting. One Valentine’s, they both called out from work & went to a hotel cuz at night they had plans with their spouses. How do I know all this? SHE WOULD TELL ME! While others were around! Zero shame.
@Love YourselfUmm… clearly you don’t know how Poly relationships work… they all have to agree & have constant conversations to make sure there are no issues. Everyone involved discuss in length with eachother & whoever they might bring into their relationship if said person is okay with it. I’m not saying they don’t have problems while Poly but they definitely have better communication in their relationship, due to the dynamics of their type of relationship, compared to people who have monogamous relationships. If you wouldn’t be Poly then don’t be. But don’t shit on a relationship when you clearly know nothing of how it actually works nor those in said type of relationships.
She clearly wanted you to expose them lmao, I mean if you can't even be sneaky about it I definitely ain't covering for you. I'm telling everyone who'll care to listen, especially your spouses.
@subha baskaran Oh, I bet too! She ended up leaving so not sure how long they did last, but 3 months sounds about right!
I bet they broke in less than 3 months after leaving their spouses
At least you don't mention names. That, I think, would be illegal.
I agree with Jen. Make a promise, keep a promise. If you're going to change your mind, share that info honestly upfront...and live with the consequences of your decisions. Just sneaking around and lying is a much more severe game changer that does speak to character and integrity. There is no such thing as "Whoops, I did it again."
My stepdad died a few months ago, I obviously I cried and felt bad. The next morning just when I was about to cry because of hime again I found out from my mom that he was cheating with multiple women for years. The day he died was the last day I cried and cared about him. Guess karma got him good huh?
Oh, not yet! The joy of karma is that it is a gift that keeps giving and giving.
I think these kind of people that like to cheat, need to go find people that just agree to open marriages or open relationships, I think it would save a lot of people that like going steady and being just for that soul person a lot of heartache.
@Alison Cowan Wow? That’s so sad that he cheated even though there was an open relationship! I guess I’ll never understand men., I’ve been married for 25 years and still going, we’ve had some rough patches but we made it through it thank God
Except open marriages and open relationships are dependent on mutual respect - and cheaters have none. My second husband and I had an open relationship, and he cheated. Cheating is about lying and manipulation, it isn't about sex. Sex is just the "reward" for lying "successfully".
Exactly!!
But I also think that some cheaters just like the thrill of it, as bad as it is, with no regards on hurting their SO's feelings.
I hate it when I see tinder profiles with guys just bluntly saying that they're married and want a little "secret adventure" on the side! It makes my blood boil!!
And for the amount of similar profiles I see, it makes me believe that a lot of people knowingly want to be the "other one". 😑
9:36 the fact they were THAT determined to empty the pool💀💀 made the time for it and everything
My aunt found out her husband was not only cheating on her but also had 2 babies on the way by 2 different women. She invited both women plus his first child mother to her house. Once they got there she called him to come home. She said he walked in he stopped and looked at all of them he didn’t say anything just walked to their room and started packing his things then left.
I hate that it happened, but I love the solidarity between women these days ❤
@An Akatsuki Fangirl and he probably will try to start it all over again and perhaps knocks up some other women
@Kaihiro Ku Unfortunately he more than likely will try to dodge the responsibilies of the kids. I feel bad for all four of those women who probably had no idea what was going on behind their backs.
He better not run away from the responsabilities of thoses babies though, actions have consequences.
He accepted his fate before they even had to say anything. He knew it was over before the confrontation even began. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know your marriage is finished when your partner locates and personally invites over the people you've been cheating on them with to let you know that they know exactly what you've been up to.
Long story short, but I went to high school with girl #1 and her long term boyfriend. I ended up working with the bf, and just making innocent conversation, I asked him if he was still going out with girl #1 in front of our coworkers, including girl #2. What followed was the most awkward silence I've ever experienced, and I later found out guy was cheating on girl #1 with girl #2 and it was sort of an open secret and everyone knew about it but didn't talk about it. (Girl #1 had been told, but she was just in denial). Fast forward 15 years and I hear girl #1 was getting divorced from the bf because of his chronic cheating.
TLDR: once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't find that out the hard way, people!
Who else just loves that Charlotte pronounces "social media" as if it's a curse word while she is posting on social media?
The amber thing seems like both parties might be doing it for attention, however the “first incidence of amber cheating” was actually her being assaulted by a presumed male friend by how she talks about being drunk and remembering hugging said friend goodbye then waking up on the same bed with him sticking his hand down her pants the next morning…yeah, I would call that sa, not cheating.
I was recently cheated on and this video made me so much happier :) thank you! Doing great 🌻
You could hear the children in the background when the woman was kicking out her husband and the mystery woman. How awful of a person do you have to be to do such a thing in front of your kids and allow another woman to disrespect your wife in the process. I’m glad she’s divorcing that man, neither her nor her children deserve that.
My boyfriends bio mother is one of those. This woman was the absolute worst of the worst I'm talking narcissistic, pathological liar, sociopath, abusive, manipulative, gold digging b itch. On new years I spent the day with my boyfriend and his parents (father and step mother). His dad got to talking about how she baby trapped him with my boyfriend at 17 years old (she was only 15) and made him marry her. She cheated on him a lot. Like basicslky every single month they were together (including before eand during baby trap) she had a different man in their bed. After bf was born she refused to work. She didn't want anything to do with being a good mother and just wanted to sit around and watch TV while his dad raised the baby(ies) and worked to keep the bills paid. They ended up losing their house and moving in with his dads parents who kept them fed, and never charged them a thing. His dad went to his brother's wedding for a weekend and the bio mom left the kids with grandparents and went away for the weekend with a rich old (like disgustingly old man) my boyfriend was 11 when he first saw his mom's boyfriend's before his parents were even divorced. She then lied to his dad saying her mom was sick and she needed to go visit him in South Dakota. She took all three kids and never came home. She ended up neglecting, and resenting her oldest kid (my boyfriend). He has a scar the entire length of his palm and across his pinky to where he cant even cold his pinky any more, from where she used a broken mop handle to abuse him. He had to run away from her and ended up in Arizona living with his dad. It's been about 4-5 years since. I have met this woman in a desprate attempt to get to know his siblings. She grabbed me by the arm called me a whore who's trapping her son and he's far too young ( we were both 17, I feel the need to say we are 20 and childless and still together so that's a one up on her lol). She likes to the two younger siblings about how much their dad doesn't want to see them. Except for when she wanted to take her new husband's kids to Disney land and not her own. Then all of a sudden their dad wanted to give things a shot according to her. She fucked up a whole lot of people's lives and I literally can't say any more for legal reasons but just know it does NOT end there
Man I agree with you like it's not right ! 😤😤😤
@Chuck MissildineThe mom put it out on TikTok & this girl reacted to it. If you don’t like it because kids were around at the time of this going on… blame the dad & his side chick (cause they’re still legally married at the time from what I gathered) for making it an issue by disrespecting the mother, IN HER OWN HOME, after she was kind enough to let HIM, not anyone else, HIM stay the night for ONE night. He should’ve had enough respect for the mother of his kids & his children to not create an issue like he did. And the side chick should have had respect for herself to not be a disgusting piece of shit by acting the way she did when told to leave a house that she doesn’t own.
It depends on how it hits you. If she gets deeply angry, I can see someone doing it.
@Chuck Missildine I highly doubt they are watching this video. Also, she was on the girls side who was getting cheated on. Did you even watch the video?
Everytime I got cheated on I always thought I did something wrong for that to happen. Like what did I do or what is so wrong with me for that to have to happen to me. Cause if it's happening for no reason it's just so heart breaking, gut wrenching, and soul crushing. Then they just go about their day like nothing's wrong. Will never understand how any person is able to do that to someone.
I wish I have had someone telling me all this before I got married. My husband of 25 years used to behave like a dictator and all the red flags were there. Emotional abuse is a serious problem in a relationship. From emotional abuse, cheating started.THANK YOU MAXIMAN34 for posting this time to get me all the evidence.👆👆👆. ..............
2nd video: that's exactly what my ex did. Emotionally immature men (especially narcissists) are just... something else.
My wife was my my first and only girlfriend. I started courting her when I was 30. She also doesn't wear makeup. This was even before I met her. So, the face I see during the day time is the face I get to look at when I wake up in the morning. Yes, my wife has natural beauty. It is so wonderful. She has nothing to hide. I am no one without my wife
I'm assuming that the one where the lady convinced her husband to have another kid that they used a sperm donor. Infertility is something a lot of people struggle with.
Twins are more common with some fertility procedures. Which makes me think it's even more likely to have been a sperm donor
It’s always funny when like two cheaters get together and they’re both actively cheating on their partners and blowing up all the lives simultaneously around them...
cough ned fulmer cough
I’ve been cheated on a couple of times and I got PETTY revenge every time
psychology says that cheating is common for people who have issues with commitment (even for married ones) and who are control freaks. That would explain why cheaters get angry when caught - they lose control.
Charlotte, you’ve never sounded more Canadian then when you yelled
“HOLD theh PHOENEEE”
the guy who cheated on her with 3 girls was probs just in it to look cool and the girls where probs in it for the money apart from his actual girl friend. its really messed up that how people do that.
OMG Charlotte pleeeeeease react to the whole Ned from Try Guys cheating scandal hahahaha I would love to see you roast two cheaters
My dad decided to tell my mother over 20 years after the fact that he had been cheating on her throughout their early relationship until she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. At the time they had two small children. He knew her feelings on cheating, and he waited until she was so sick she absolutely needed him to function day to day to tell her. Or rather to clean his own conscience. The knowledge didn't do anything helpful or healing for her. I hope any cheaters who got away with it and feel guilty about it take this little nugget of advice. Your partner is happier not knowing and you deserve the guilt that keeps you up at night. Keep it to yourself and maybe your kids won't hate you.
@TShirtAndReeboks They had a right to not be cheated on too. Obviously the cheater didn't care about that, why is caring about the "truth" more valuable than honoring a monogamous relationship? After 20 some odd years, when your partner can no longer function without you, and has always expressed how unforgivable cheating is to them, the truth is no longer in the innocent party's best interest, at least it wasn't in my mother's. It broke her heart and soured the last 39 years of marriage for her. Now she feels trapped with a man she no longer trusts, and she's too sick and tired to leave. She's said herself she wished he'd kept his lying mouth shut, his peace of mind wasn't worth shattering her world.
That may be true, but I think people have the right to know, even if it is painful.
That is absolutely horrendous. Sorry to say but he needs to rot in a special place
Charlotte coming at us with the life lessons.
Sick thing is, some people actually get a thrill out of sneaking around and cheating
I found with my ex-boyfriend that it was more the fun of being sneaky and seeing if he could get by with it. These men/women are still children or high schoolers who never grew up mentally.
Just saying for those who need to hear it after "You know what's cool? Being monogamous", being polyamorous, respectful of your partners AND being honest to them is also valid! 👍🏻👍🏻
@somo mm Yup, I was in an open relationship even and I still asked for permission to see people, keep my partner updated, made sure I was safe etc. Communication is key. And not doing things secretly
Yes, I'm not currently polyamorous but I'm not strictly opposed to it but trying to explain that polyamory is not an open pass to cheat with who ever to someone opposed to the idea or just ignorant of what it actually entails is headache inducing. Monogamous is cool but not the only way to be in a healthy stable relationship. Like you said it's about respect and honesty
Charlotte thank you for pointing out that it's NOT because of imperfections that we get cheated on. It's because of the flaws of the CHEATER. AMEN girl! Amen.
@Jennifer Hendricks If you think your spouse doesn't care about you, break up with them. What's cheating going to do? Upset them? Like what is the point in trying to hurt someone by cheating on them if you don't think they give a shit about you to begin with. If you've tried all avenues of communication and your needs in the relationship still aren't being met, leave.
That depends. Sometimes people can cheat because their spouse doesn't care about them and vice versa. While Stolas and Stella in Hellava Boss is fiction, it can happen in real life.
@Sid Mehta True. I'm pretty average looking I admit. ☺
@Sarah Novella yeah i think the options thing might be true for SOME people, but i think to generalize this would be buying into the myth that "men just can't help themselves", or "ppl need variation for XYZ [insert bs pseudoscientific reason that rests on biases only]" or whatever. I think this myth is propagated by people who want this to be true and excuse themselves for cheating, yet not wanting any kind of open relationship or poly life (which, why not, huh!??) I got tons of options tbh and i feel ZERO inclined to use them, cos i love my partner and only want them. From the bottom of my heart, I'm just not interested, and if i ever am, id break up first before destroying my partner cos I'm a selfish pos.
@Ignightroad Sorry that happened to you. Duplicity is never ok.
Friendly reminder to everybody that polyamorous relationships can be healthy because polyamory is *not* the same as cheating, monogamy is not the only way to be happy! It’s cheating if you partner doesn’t know/doesn’t consent to you being with other people while in a relationship with them, and polyamory comes in different ways; whether polyamory for you means you and your partners all are together and all love each other or if your partner knows and okay with you being with other people (as long as you are transparent with them about what you do with that other person/people) and of course, set up boundaries with each other
The man with the multiple women looks like the “If I date him I know he won’t leave/cheat”
If that was my house there wouldn’t have been any “reasoning” happening. My concealed carry would have come out of its holster and cops called and charges made for trespassing. Period.
Anybody gonna talk the tantrum-guy replacing the glass of water 😂😂😂
Oh that second thing happened to me. I used my husband at the times truck to take our son to the doctor, he did not tell me that his tag was expired and that he had no insurance. I got pulled over and got two tickets. He told me that he took care of the tickets. Now keep in mind we are separated because I had just found out that he had cheated on me with 37 other women. I had just gotten my own place but his parents had given the trailer that we were living in before to his brother. Flash Forward about 6 weeks and I get pulled over in my own car with our children and find out that I have a warrant out for my arrest for missing a court date that I shouldn't have had to go to because I thought the ticket was paid. While I'm in jail I call him to check on our kids who were very traumatized about having to sit there and watch their mommy get arrested. I got to say though that the cop who arrested me was very very sweet he actually got in the car with us and talked to my babies and told them that nothing bad was going to happen to me that I was perfectly safe that I would be home in a few days and then everything was fine he let them know that you know the cops were not bad guys that they were not going to hurt me, that no one was going to hurt me, and that kind of stuff and left me uncuffed sitting in my own car with my kids until someone got there to pick them up. Anyway, while talking to David he tells me that his parents who he had been staying with got pissed off at him and wouldn't let him stay there with the kids anymore and he didn't have anywhere to go. It turns out that they had gotten pissed off at him because he was sleeping all day waking up eating something and going back to bed and leaving the kids for them to take care of so these psychos kicked out not only him but my children because my children weren't being taken care of. So I call my mother tell her to give David the key to my house so that my kids could sleep in their own rooms. When I finally get out of jail a few days later I find a woman's razor in my shower, a pair of another woman's panties in my bed, a lipstick on my bathroom counter. And my children call my phone and they are in another state with my husband at one of his girlfriend's houses and they are locked outside while he is inside with the girl for hours and of course they don't know the address all they know is that it's in Georgia so I have no way to call the police to go get my children I just stayed on the phone with them for nearly 5 hours until David finally let them in and I was able to talk to him and tell him I was out of jail and please bring my kids home. That particular woman whose house it was ended up killing my husband about 4 days later. She shot him in the throat and I buried him on his 28th birthday
Sounds like karma's a bitch...
If you want to be poly, or have an open relationship, you need to not only discuss that openly with your partner, but have them willingly consent! If they aren't comfortable with that, and you cant be monogamous, then give them the respect of walking away and finding are partner whos okay with it. Dont just cheat because you feel you can get away with it.
in sports as well as in relationships the same saying applies, cheaters NEVER win and winners NEVER cheat.
New here, from Asheville, NC. Love your channel. Keep up the hilarious entertainment!
Miss Charlotte: You know what’s cool? Being monogamous and respectful to your partner!
Every Tater Tot ever: 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@David Guidry It seems important to you to make sure poly know we are not allowed to have thoughts. Chill.
Just be loyal
@David Guidry lmao it ain’t all that deep I said being polyamorous and respecting your partner is cool too is it not??? Lmao
@David Guidry Could you point to where the commented asked for her to be required to do anything? You seem to be equating mild and respectful criticism with something else. Nobody is being disrespectful here to charlotte. I love her. I doubt she meant any disrespect either.
@Michaela Walker I’m sure it is. This is not a polyamorous video tho. A lot of assumptions are being made instead of taking it at face value. The boundaries of an allegedly monogamous relationship were crossed and so Miss Charlotte addressed that.
If you cheat, you don’t love your partner. You don’t care about them.
1:35 being polyamorous is also cool, as long as you communicate with your partner. If you have interest in multiple partners and they don’t, then they aren’t right for ya.
What is also cool is being in a consenting polyamorous relationship, while being faithful to the partners you do have
0:49 The caption: "Bro Exposed His Boy For No Reason"
Excuse me, what?! 🤨
"Bro Teaches His Boy Valuable Lesson in Life" There, I fixed it 😊
This is the power of social media, once one person knows you’re cheating on your partner, then EVERYONE knows because everyone joins in the hunt of finding the person being cheated on to inform them
Thanks for watching and leaving a comment text me privately 👆....
Being faithful and honest is the only way to go in a relationship, truly love your partner!
This reminds me so much of 8 years ago. Me and my now husband were part of several arcade gaming and competitive groups. And there was this one guy that always hung out with us to train because we were around the same range of skill level so we became quite close. I became friends with his gf cause he would bring her along. After about a year, he got quite popular because he got really good in the games we were competing in and would start bringing in several different girl “friends” every training session. Then some years later, I was invited into a facebook group by his former gf, and now ex-fiance. Turns out that they were supposed to get married but she found out that the guy was rotating through more than a dozen women and they were all clueless of each other’s existence until they were all brought into that facebook group. And I was invited there to be their witness so I got to witness all the craziness. 😅
I am a kid of two notorious cheaters, and even though my parents divorced when I was only 7 years old because of the same reasons, I was able to witness them continuing to cheat on their new partners. The end of the story is - I always ran at the first tiny sign of imbalance in my marriage, engagement or any other relationship. Never waited long enough to be cheated on, and since I had the perfect opportunity to watch and learn as a child, I always knew way before things would go south.
...now I live a happily ever after perfect single life with my horses and dogs - basically the bad a** version of a crazy cat lady - Army vet, always 40 out of 40, renovating an old house built in 1900, fixing my Jeep, starting my own horses and rescuing little mutts. And drinking Jack&Coke. 😅
Can I come live with you??? Sounds fun, I be yr best friend, so no cheating would occur!!!! I'm great fun honest!!
Goals- from one vet to another 😉
My ex threw a chair at me when I caught him cheating 🙆
I'm non-monogamous. The two biggest factors contributing to this are: 1) rubbing my genitals against someone else's genitals doesn't actually prevent me from prioritizing a life partner, the same way that going out to watch a movie doesn't; and 2) my body belongs to me and only me, no one else gets to claim ownership over it.
That being said, I'm straightforward about how I feel with all my partners, and they know not to expect perfect monogamy from me. Honesty is very important to me, so people who lie and sneak around and who are disingenuous really piss me off.
If I meet a person I like and wanna flirt with / whatever, I'm not thinking about being sneaky regarding my partner, I'm thinking, "Oh, this is what I feel like doing right now." Like, this and that are two separate things, to me. But of course I acknowledge that not everyone feels this way. Thought sharing would be worthwhile since "I don't understand" is a common response to non-monogamy.
Cheating is a lot of work. Sometimes I can't stand my husband, can't imagine with two men at the same time. Sounds dreadful...
My now ex boyfriend ironically enough loves your videos. I became pregnant this year, to which he proceeded to cheat on me with several women while I helped pay the bills while he was in between jobs. He was taking them on dates and leaving me with his sons from his previous marriage (I love my step sons, so I don’t mind but I had a rough pregnancy and could barely walk) at home alone while he went out to the bar and drank. One of the girls he was talking to was his ex girlfriend from high school that he was sexting back and forth and exchanging nudes with. I was completely oblivious, and his ex knew he and I were dating. It gets better though. He also as it turns out has an only fans where he was paying for subscriptions the entire time, one of which was for a stripper he cheated on his ex wife with which I found out later on. He refused to buy me flowers and it got to where I was the one coming home, taking care of my step sons, cleaning house, and then exhausted and asking just to be comforted because I was stressed. He refused to help with the house or comfort me with even just a hug. I left him at first, and then he begged for me back and swore he would go to therapy, stop drinking, and would stop going to the bar. I gave birth, and from there he broke every single promise and was still cheating on me I found out. He also refused to help me with our newborn, so I was healing from stitches, facing postpartum depression, sleep deprived, and dealing with our newborn (who has colic) completely alone. The night I left, he had been at the bar for 5-6 hours and then came back, got angry when I called him out for not helping me, and then threw the baby carrier and the bassinet across the room screaming at me that it’s his house and I need to get the fuck out. When I went to leave and put the baby in the carrier, he grabbed onto the carrier and told me I could leave but that I had to leave the baby. I had to call the police to have him give the baby back to me, and the next day he wouldn’t let me get me or the baby’s things including diapers, formula, clothes, all of which were gifts from friends or I had paid for out of my pocket. Since leaving, he doesn’t ask how the baby is or if he can see him despite me pushing for him to be a part of the baby’s life. When I asked for help with buying formula since our baby has really bad colic and is also lactose intolerant, he blocked me. It’s been an extremely hard lesson, but I’ve really learned that you truly don’t know a person until you have their child. Because after opening up about what I endured with him, I’ve found it’s sadly extremely common for women to be cheated on during pregnancy. And Joey, if you’re reading this, you should be ashamed of yourself
@IsabellaSoto maybe being in between jobs changed his personality although that's not a good excuse in regards to how you were treated but could be a possibility.
@Cryssyyxx I wasn’t supposed to be able to have children. I was told that due to my PCOS that I would have to try IVF if I even wanted to attempt to have children. My son was a very large surprise for us both. And while there are red flags you can get from people, he never acted the way he did even remotely during my pregnancy
I'm sorry to say but u can definitely learn who someone is before having their kid the problem is people date someone for a year or 2 and decide to have their baby instead of waiting longer or ignoring red flags.
Omg.. Thats horrible :/!
@Daphney Donegan I agree, but that was also the worst part. I’ve been around his family, we have the same friends, and it was almost as soon as I became pregnant that suddenly his entire behavior changed against me
This is about the 4th time I see a Monty cheating, or acting up lol we're not all bad I swear! Fellow Monty's, get it together! Lol
The thing that still makes me angry about previous unfaithful partner is not them, the lying, the gaslighting, the blatant disrespect or the side pieces. It's the fact that i will forever question anyone's motivations. My husband, friends, children, coworkers. Any possible connection i make is always tainted by doubt and then shame for not being able to trust. THAT is rage inducing and makes me wish fervently for the duplicitous toads down fall.
This is why I absolutely despise cheating, it’s so harmful to the people involved, it’s just so disgusting
I totally understand.
@Miki Poole That was lovely. Thank you.
@Sherry D. I agree, but I’m not the one with the guy
@Tea laBlu That's someone who believes he should be in control. How many others? Don't let him lead you. Don't give him a dime AND don't give him your heart.
And this is why I’m Aroace! (Not really it’s just cause I’ve never felt attracted by anyone romantically or sexually)
Honestly relationships sound like a pain.
But I hope cheaters get what they deserve.
And y’all who were cheated on? Go make sure to get some revenge!
I did cheat once, and I owned up to it, but the thing is the guy I slept with had gotten me drunk when I let him crash in my dorm after he was kicked out of the house.... I'm on perscription meds you can't drink on, so like I know I fucked up but I pretty much had to be roofied to do it and he filmed it and sent it to my boyfriend at the time
@mffmoniz yeah
Isn't that actually r@pe?
10:32 do people not realize that the mother has light skin? both of the twins can inherit a one of the parents skin tone and not the other (in this example, the babies most likely got their mothers skin tone.) and even if both parents had dark skin, there’s still a possibility that the babies inherited it from another member in the family (preferably someone white since, well you saw the babies.)
Not everyone has to be monogamous, but even if you are in a polyamorous relationship you still have to follow the rules of your relationship.
Agree completely. How can you trust a family member who disregards basic boundaries? That brings risks of disease and conflicting valuables into the home? What if you have children? What values does a thrill seeker cheater share?
Once a cheat, always a cheat. If they're willing to cheat with you, they will cheat on you, too. Also, "I had to cheat to be sure I really wanted to be with you " is the lamest excuse ever. A leopard doesn't change it's spots.
@Jennifer Bates yeah I don't disagree that some people take longer to mature and have other things developmentally holding them back or make them more prone to be impulsive but at some point it's not a valid excuse. If you are a "functioning" adult in a monogamous relationship and you make the choice to cheat, physical or emotional, you are not a good person. Then you have the choice to make chnages/get help to be better or continue being destructive.
@Vio A couple of ways:
* Using your money on others without your partner knowing, and vice versa.
* many people have financial Doms, people who tell them how to spend their money.
* Lying about money, like amassing debt without your partners knowledge, and vice versa.
@Jennifer Bates Financial cheating? How does that work, secretly buying handbags off his credit card? :)
@Halyson The brain isn't fully formed until you're 25. Our mental, physical, emotional and sexual health are ALL connected. So there's a lot going on. There's many kinds of cheating as well, financial, emotional, physical and sexual.
I understand what you mean though.
My point is that no 2 humans grow and mature at the same rate. So nothing is set in stone. I work as a Sex Coach and an ADHD Coach.
@Jennifer Bates If you're in you're late teens/early 20s, it's a shit thing to do but everyone does stuff they regret at that age but they grow up and make better choices. Once you're past that stage or in a serious relationship there's no excuse and you're a shit person.
Where does one find the time or energy to string along 4 girls? 😂, I cannot, with these cheaters! 😂😂😂
oh my god, I would have just called the police on them
I have been with my husband for 10 years and the thought of being with someone seriously grosses me out I would never do that to him or us it’s so fucked… we also deleted our social media and couldn’t be happier…… just leave the person and then your less of an asshole
Charlotte, you crack me up!
Putting in my two cents for 1:38. Being polyamorous is okay IF you talk and communicate with your partner(s) first. Being poly is also no excuse to go behind your partners back, you should not do that EVER.
I'd say about 50% of those who catch their significant other cheating our themselves cheating but are better at concealing it
My ex cheated on me and his dumb ass was grabbing on this old lady literally two feet in front of me and didn’t even see me standing there. So I shook her hand and said you must be the new Mrs bleh bleh I’m the ex he’s all yours now. He keeps stammering saying this is just the lady I’m renting a room to. She kept yelling at him who is that WHO IS THAT!!!! I just walked away smiling. I am surprised I handled it this way I always thought I would loose my mind. He was cheating for the entire 15 years we were together
Someone might argue with me over this but if you truly love the person you're with you will not cheat if you cheat you don't really love them you're more concerned with what pleasure you feel
I was cheated on once. Really just came out of nowhere. It was an insane feeling. My boss at the time told me some great advice. “ A man can have a steak in the freezer but he’s going out for McDonald’s” real talk.
Yuck, no one puts steak in the freezer!!!
I agree Charlotte. How did Erica's cheatin BF get with "those" ladies?!?! They were like, blurry 7's+ and he was a chunky 3...maybe. Wow, impressed by Mr Gulia. :P
"you know whats cool? Being monogamous and respectful of your partner!"
me and my partner both being poly: oh shi-
This was ment as a joke lol i get what she was saying this was just funny to me.
I cheated many times on my ex bf and I regret it so much. I used to say I cheated cause he lived in Texas and I live in California. we where best friends and 2 years later I got with him. 2 weeks later he moved back to Texas and I haven’t seen him a little over a year. he found out I cheated on him with 2 guys. Jose and August. I blocked August and I stayed with Jose. I shared my first kiss and touch with Jose. found out he was only going to use me for my body. by the way he’s 18. we where gonna go to a game but not to watch it. we where gonna have sex. I am not 17 or 18. I am only 14 years old. and because I thought I loved him I agreed to have sex with him. he was cheating on me with my best friend. he had jacked photos of women on his phone. he used to touch me in places I didn’t like. he said it’s ok and it’s what bf and gf do. I was dumb. this happed 2 months ago.
After a couple months of dating this guy I found out from a friend of a friend of a friend that he had a girlfriend.... that he lived with.
Girlfriend was kind enough to reach out to me. I apologized profusely. She said it wasn't the first time and she was done with him.
We talked for quite a long time and found out we had a lot in common (besides him). She invited me to come over and hang out for a while and to surprise him when he got home.
I suppose it could have been a trap but it wasn't. We were hanging out in the living room eating pizza and drinking beer when he came home.
He was completely casual when he walked in the door and saw both of us there chilling in the living room. He said "Hey ladies, lemme grab a beer."
He strolled past us into the kitchen, but instead of hearing the refrigerator open we heard the back door open and he exited.
And he never came back!
We hung out for a couple hours before I eventually left. He never returned. About a week later he sent some friends over to get his stuff.
Girlfriend and I have now been besties for years.
What a awesome story!
The last line was GOLD!!! 😆 Absolutely BRILLIANT!!!
You win.😂
I feel both for you, but I was glad things didnt get ugly in between you two ladies. I hope you both are doing great in your lives.👍
That's how it was with my ex
The thing with the dog shelter.. just do that but send them to go buy some milk at the grocery store and then call them, ask if they found the milk and after break up 😂
I'm curious about mystery woman who refused to leave. Why would you go home with a guy who has nowhere to take you but asks to use his exes' house?
Even if you were into him before, I'd think you'd be out once you realize you're going to his exes' house.
It'd be obvious from the home that a woman and children live there. So either you'd assume he's married and lives there, or it's not his home.
10:50 males look like their mother, female looks like their fathers.
If the babies were born with recesive genes (white skin) instead of dominant genes (dark skin) they will look like the mom no matter if the father is dark skinned.
The twins could take after the mom more then the dad
My ex cheated on me with my best friend. I caught them and we all worked together so Monday shift was interesting but I was over it. I sent her a sympathy card on the first anniversary, they married and he cheated on her but not with me I don’t have sloppy seconds
Perfect karma and revenge. I would have sent her a joker so she knows that she’s the joke
Yes! They are very bored. That's often times the main reason.
Being non monogamous is also absolutely cool and fine, as long as you are ethical aboàut it, i.e everyone is consenting to it. Cheating also exist in non monogamy ;)
It's not "greedy" it's disrespectful and in some cases manipulative and control-driven.
Ask my ex. Many years of getting caught cheating and no remorse whatsoever. I took too long to close that door 🚪. Granted, she was pretty vindictive, so it took a while for it to be her idea to divorce and I just went along. Easy peasy and now we are friends (kid together), even with her new sucke err husband.
people cheat because they need attention, because they crave the drama, because they have problems, maybe problems they’ve grown up with their whole lives. Whatever it may be, it was never about you darling, and they always knew they weren’t good enough for you so they had to prove it 💅🏼
You can @ me for being judgmental all you want, but I'm just gonna say it. The vid where his gf invited all the girls the bf cheated with over at the same time. How the hell did that dude pull those girls. I call no way. You know you're thinking it.
The only time it’s cool to be pulling in a relationship is if you’re in a consensual open or poly relationship
I been faithful & everything my bfs have asked me to be for them & yet every single relationship I've been in I've been lied to, cheated on & gas lighted..... I'm only getting dogs for the rest of my life no more men