How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

  • čas přidán 10. 06. 2019
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    After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
    On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

    4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
    4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
    6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
    6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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Komentáře • 2 628

  • Charisma on Command
    Charisma on Command  Před 14 dny +276

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    • 5dope
      5dope Před 2 dny

      @c-cafeaulait sh*t it homos*xual

    • c-cafeaulait
      c-cafeaulait Před 5 dny

      Is it in Spotify????

    • 5dope
      5dope Před 7 dny

      this is bullsh*t and won't work. anyone believing that is in doubt.

  • Kakyoyin
    Kakyoyin Před 16 hodinami

    hail 2 u

  • zambi
    zambi Před 16 hodinami

    i have a natural poker face help

  • juni
    juni Před 18 hodinami

    before interactive activity: imagines everything perfect in my head
    when it actually happens: trips and falls down 7 flights of stairs while making dying whale sounds

  • ZA_Survivalist
    ZA_Survivalist Před 19 hodinami

    I call BS. She makes constant eye contact. I see no traits of anxiety in her interviews. Instead it seems to be more like virtue signaling. Nothing people love more than a pretty, confident person talking about how “vulnerable” or “depressed” they are.. nah man.. I think you got this completely wrong. Its all assumption based.

  • Aliyatopia
    Aliyatopia Před 20 hodinami

    this was literally uploaded right when I needed this video the most. thank you so much

  • Lauren Ruiz
    Lauren Ruiz Před 20 hodinami

    I don't know if it comes naturally or if she's cultivated it, like I am, LOL, but she's also got confident and attractive posture/hand placement. So she's communicating competency on that level.

  • t_mmey
    t_mmey Před 21 hodinou +1

    dude, sophie turner is incredibly hot, not only for her looks, but also her character, you just gotta love her

  • simonca
    simonca Před 21 hodinou

    Wow I actually do those things without even realizing this was an actual technique lol

  • Harendra Singh
    Harendra Singh Před 23 hodinami

    5:58 this is something I need to learn, making someone else feel they are the one haha.

  • Harendra Singh
    Harendra Singh Před 23 hodinami

    0:24 so me ! Seems a good video will follow.

  • tobi pohan
    tobi pohan Před 23 hodinami

    Uh.. i don't know.. maybe just me?
    The explanation you gave in point 1 just made me believe that she doesn't really have anxiety..
    She's really.. expressive and brave in common situation
    While anxiety ofter related to fear, shy, etc
    Which i have, made me expressionless and fearful in every conversation i have
    Or rather, in every situation

  • amin emin
    amin emin Před dnem

    Step 1 : be an attractive woman

  • Smoochy Poochy
    Smoochy Poochy Před dnem

    Can you teach her how to turn anxiety into good acting?

  • iera
    iera Před dnem

    Perhaps you people should stay away from your phones and social media for a couple of months and you will feel much better

  • Dean Almond
    Dean Almond Před dnem

    Just be yourself, and people will like you for you.

  • César Oróstegui
    César Oróstegui Před dnem

    Just came from the Keanu video and now this one. Loved ‘em both. It’s so refreshing to actually see introverts as cool. Whenever I saw a Robert Downey Jr. video or a Ryan Reynolds one I never identified with any of them. They’re outgoing, not low key at all. I never wanted to “not be myself” or “fake it till I male it”. It always seemed false. Now I know the mission is to find out who I am, know myself and embrace it. This is actually great advice and a great analysis. Thanks!

  • Lindsay J
    Lindsay J Před dnem

    When youtube is better at helping with my anxiety with its suggestions than my therapist

  • Claudia Reis
    Claudia Reis Před dnem

    This is so weird

  • CranesV2
    CranesV2 Před dnem +1

    How to turn anxiety into charisma:

    C O C A I N E

  • Dan Anthony
    Dan Anthony Před dnem

    Is it over yet ?

  • Samantha
    Samantha Před dnem

    'Change your thinking' is also a very good book on CBT

  • Madeline Kassen
    Madeline Kassen Před dnem

    do keanu reeves

  • Emily
    Emily Před dnem

    1:02 How can I get a case of Dr Phil water bottles?????

  • JosephGimmics
    JosephGimmics Před dnem

    Do Dexter Morgan

  • Britfan06
    Britfan06 Před dnem

    Well done.

  • Rob T
    Rob T Před dnem +1

    Wait, you realize she is a very toxic person, right? She has no problem pissing people off, and running her mouth with her opinion and could care less about other people. So you need to check her again. She is not some "vulnerable, delicate flower with depression."

  • Den Mar
    Den Mar Před dnem

    I have to practice so many things of this channel. When I'm o social situations I'm just plain awkard. I sweat, mumble and don't make sense and people always end up confused lol

  • Beljwilliams
    Beljwilliams Před dnem

    Just want to encourage everyone reading this! I feel like some of you are really discouraged about social situations and perhaps feel like you can hardly function around people, and this has made you feel hopeless or perhaps depressed. Just know that you aren’t less valuable as a person just because you struggle in this area. Your social interactions don’t define your worth and value :)

  • HA RU
    HA RU Před dnem

    ha! not when you have acute anxiety. you're horrifying for people esp when they witness you having an anxiety attack

  • steve gale
    steve gale Před dnem


  • Andres Erickson
    Andres Erickson Před dnem

    I literally had a job interview that went horribly yesterday and I left feeling horrible out my social skills, and then this pops up in my suggestions. Strange “coincidence”... Thank you for this!! Subscribed 👍🏽😁

  • Muhammad Aulia
    Muhammad Aulia Před dnem

    Please sir, make charisma breakdown to lucifer morningstar, i like to learn his charm

  • #1 Chingu
    #1 Chingu Před 2 dny

    What kind of personal attack is this youtuber

  • carol
    carol Před 2 dny

    I'm commenting because this is so good it should show up in more people's recommendations

  • Pari Mahal
    Pari Mahal Před 2 dny

    The TITLE is pretty CLEAR, but the VIDEO did NOT tell me “HOW TO TURN ANXIETY TO CHARISMA” 🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • spooky
    spooky Před 2 dny

    Who knew the way I socialize was so similar to this lol

  • Rose Summers
    Rose Summers Před 2 dny

    Thanks guys. Your content is super helpful. x

  • Micah Sample
    Micah Sample Před 2 dny

    The problem is that she’s a female, so it will naturally be more charismatic for her to be shy and anxious. For men, that’s a different thing altogether.

  • taulant abazi
    taulant abazi Před 2 dny

    Do a video about Johnny Depp

  • Motivação Para Todos
    Motivação Para Todos Před 2 dny +3

    _2 rules to how turn anxiety into charisma:_
    1- born hot
    2- follow the number one rule

  • H K
    H K Před 2 dny

    Thank you

  • Nothing But Dope
    Nothing But Dope Před 2 dny

    you tool, stop talking about fallon. he groped millie bobby brown in the search party video uploaded recently @ 4:43. nothing personal, but associating with fallon is CANCEROUS

  • Maysa Rajraji
    Maysa Rajraji Před 2 dny

    This video is good for sociopaths.👍👍🤣🤣

  • Daniel Lau
    Daniel Lau Před 2 dny

    as an anxious person i can tell she hated that interview !

  • gabrialplague
    gabrialplague Před 2 dny

    Dude.. You need to analyse guys more often for the sake of all of us chaps who need help.
    Girls kinda make it through easy..

    • Noor Azraq
      Noor Azraq Před 2 dny

      gabrialplague Except for poor Brie Larson.

  • Sophie 098
    Sophie 098 Před 2 dny

    *Its só strange hearing him talking about me but also not about me ;-;*

  • Joachim Constantine
    Joachim Constantine Před 2 dny

    Sophie is definitely an INFP

  • Gun Murat Ilban
    Gun Murat Ilban Před 2 dny

    I don't agree with that. While openly sharing about anxiety can get people rooting for you and be more accepting of you, it also limits your their opinion of you in a way. You might have sympathies for someone who tells about their anxieties; but you won't ever think of them as a leader whether it's in business or social interactions. So altough it's a good way to be able to socialize with more people, it definitely is not going to improve your charisma. When Turner started talking about her anxiety, it made her likeable and made people more cautious when it comes to saying bad things about her. But that's pretty much the opposite of being more charismatic.

  • Rich Cundiff
    Rich Cundiff Před 3 dny

    You missed the mark with the video. She's not charismatic at all, in any situation.

  • Jeffrey Hage
    Jeffrey Hage Před 3 dny +3

    I can't help but feel her enthusiasm isn't genuine. A little bit forced.

  • Rey Skywaka
    Rey Skywaka Před 3 dny +5

    *now we rise*

  • Sumuqh
    Sumuqh Před 3 dny +1

    Next recommendation: turn your depression into money

  • Ishmael C
    Ishmael C Před 3 dny

    There is nothing charismatic about sophie turner look at DARK PHONIEX AND ITS BOX OFFICE

  • DaSavage Cat2
    DaSavage Cat2 Před 3 dny

    My friends always say I’m very charismatic.
    _little do they know-_

  • a tea
    a tea Před 3 dny

    Can you explain Aubrey Plaza? I get comparisons to her a lot but I'm not nearly as likable and people looove how weird she is.

  • Finn
    Finn Před 3 dny

    This only works if you’re attractive.

  • Samantha M
    Samantha M Před 3 dny

    The problem with my anxiety is it’s SO random. One day I can tell a cashier she looks like a specific actress, the next day ill nervously fumble with cash to pay at another store

  • a yellow paper crown
    a yellow paper crown Před 3 dny

    Anxiety is a disorder, not just being introverted

  • Matt Griffin
    Matt Griffin Před 3 dny

    Do Keanu Reeves

  • Ammy Susiano
    Ammy Susiano Před 3 dny

    Do a video on Elizabeth Olsen!!

  • Hunter Smith
    Hunter Smith Před 3 dny +1

    Its called xanax

  • Lisa Skes
    Lisa Skes Před 3 dny

    Sophie is like cancer. Following here is a big mistake.

  • guyyouseewhenyoudie
    guyyouseewhenyoudie Před 3 dny +4

    I’ve actually personally experienced this. I was on a date, and super anxious, and I thought I was being really weird and twitchy. But halfway through the dinner, my date actually said “You know you’re really charming, right?” My anxious tics and insecurity ended up coming off as charismatic. Totally caught me by surprise

  • Zidaan Muneer
    Zidaan Muneer Před 3 dny

    Do one on Keanu Reeves pls

  • jazznazzz
    jazznazzz Před 3 dny

    nice video, thanks! could you also do Timothee Chalamet??

  • aly
    aly Před 3 dny

    You should do Aubrey Plaza

  • geminilicious
    geminilicious Před 3 dny

    She sounds like a wholesome woman
    *-I'm jealous-*

  • Just a Fan
    Just a Fan Před 3 dny

    I will use this when i get interviewed for being Taehyung’s girlfriend

  • FabioFortune
    FabioFortune Před 3 dny

    You should definitely do a video about Keanu Reeves. There's something about him that makes him an interesting person.
    I would go so far as to say, breathtaking!

  • Marija Gadžić
    Marija Gadžić Před 3 dny +2

    I love that you made video about her, I think she is magnetic, new oscar winner soon

    • Dudebro13454 Bro
      Dudebro13454 Bro Před dnem +1

      You’re kidding right? She’s the worst actress on Game of Thrones and dreadful in Dark Phoenix. People like her because she’s hot, not because she can act.

  • It's not a party, until I have Anxiety

    Hi Newt Scamander

  • Alex9000
    Alex9000 Před 4 dny

    Honestly I wasn't listening to anything he was saying. Sophie is just so beautiful

  • Namrata Das
    Namrata Das Před 4 dny

    I feel anxious after watching this, coz I think I do some of these without realising

  • Sanni Patnaik
    Sanni Patnaik Před 4 dny

    Do a video on Selena Gomez , I find her very charismatic

  • Justine Lindsey
    Justine Lindsey Před 4 dny

    People are shocked when I say I'm shy, because I can talk alot, its because I'm overly nervous and having anxiety. Which for me makes me over talk. I make good friends but by time the convo is over I feel, tired and drained and usually cant rem what was all said. Then I overthink what I said something wrong during the convo.

  • Daedric
    Daedric Před 4 dny

    Man she's so attractive

  • Joseph Robertson
    Joseph Robertson Před 4 dny

    She’s so beautiful that it makes me feel like none of this applies to someone like me aha

  • Spock
    Spock Před 4 dny +2

    This channel is like....the perfect examination for aliens who want to act human.

    Problem is, you'll still look like an alien trying to act human. If someone acted like Turner during her interviews irl, I would be weirded out.

    • Sarah Christina Designs
      Sarah Christina Designs Před dnem

      Spock I would be so weirded out too! Does this even work for people irl? I’m with you....i don’t think so.

  • sleep. less
    sleep. less Před 4 dny

    I love this! It's an in depth tutorial on how to human!

  • alice gw
    alice gw Před 4 dny

    Does anyone else have the issue where you worry if you're overly nice people might think you're try hard or fake?

  • Cozy Unbound
    Cozy Unbound Před 4 dny

    Timothy Dalton did this in a Bond interview and owned the anxiety and he killed it

  • SageSeeker
    SageSeeker Před 4 dny +11

    Me: Mwahahaha! I have the high ground now!
    Anxiety: Hey look a person.

  • Eclesy's Galaxy
    Eclesy's Galaxy Před 4 dny

    I've been doing all of these things lately without knowing it Lool and they worked wonders!

  • Hannah
    Hannah Před 4 dny

    the eye contact in the cbt clip is uncomfortable

  • A1_ Shanks
    A1_ Shanks Před 4 dny +1

    Why is this recommended for me bruv

  • Austin
    Austin Před 4 dny

    Totally read that as "How to Turn Anorexia..."

  • Sara Appleton
    Sara Appleton Před 4 dny +1

    By the end of this I am going to be the most Charismatic person on earth

  • Myka Fowler
    Myka Fowler Před 4 dny +3

    Acid, MDMA, DMT, Psilocybin Mushrooms, or just psychedelics in general cure anxiety!

      CHASE PIERCE Před dnem

      Yeah, um, these do NOT cure anxiety. Nothing cures anxiety. You treat anxiety with SSRI's and a few other medications. MDMA has been used rarely for PTSD in some cases but good luck getting a pure form of Methyl​enedioxy​methamphetamine seeing as people on the streets 99.9% of the time aren't chemist.. MDMA is another form of Methamphetamine, as you can see in the unabbreviated term, but it hits your serotonin instead and Serotonin is the chemical in your brain in which anxiety comes from and MDMA depletes your serotonin once it starts leaving the body which can very dangerous as well because Serotonin Syndrome is a thing that you obviously don't know anything about but that comes with drugs that increase Serotonin as well. Self medicating with it is also a very bad idea considering MDMA is a stimulant and coming off of stimulants comes with anxiety and a lot of other side effects which starts to what we call cravings and that ends with Addiction. So it does nothing but make already diagnosed anxiety 10x worse. You should educate yourself. Actually, don't. Psychopharmacologist to be in a year (AND I HAVEN'T LEARNED EVERYTHING YET JUST GIVING WHAT I DO KNOW) Look that up before you try to correct me. You pretty much just told people who may think that they have anxiety or actually do have anxiety but their parents don't believe in medication or someone can't afford the medication, that illicit street drugs can be the cure. Maybe you should stop doing all of the things you mentioned, go check yourself into a Rehabilitation Center in a year and let me study you and tell you that your only treatment is to stay off of the internet and be kind to your brain because once your brain turns on you well... try to figure it out and let me know how long it took you to figure it out. We may already be in mid stages of the answer.

  • Naila Kamana
    Naila Kamana Před 4 dny +3

    Does she do this naturally or has she been trained by an anxiety coach?

  • mcmxcv
    mcmxcv Před 4 dny

    youtube what are you trying to tell me...?

  • Ocean Notion
    Ocean Notion Před 4 dny +17

    In conclusion: Don't seek validation from others but accept yourself.. your awkwardness, your shyness. In the end LOVE YOURSELF!!!

  • Harshini Arun
    Harshini Arun Před 4 dny +1

    im just waiting for a human being to try this on

  • lemon socks
    lemon socks Před 4 dny

    Lmao, I’m emotionally and mentally unstable. I envy people who can do this.

  • Er Wars
    Er Wars Před 5 dny +2

    People like her are so much more interesting to me than someone with high temperament who doesn' t even think before talking!

  • loktr
    loktr Před 5 dny

    Sophie is my QUEEN

  • ZoomedUpWorld
    ZoomedUpWorld Před 5 dny +34

    This video: *exists*
    Anxiety: *Am I a joke to you?*

  • ZoomedUpWorld
    ZoomedUpWorld Před 5 dny +30

    Me: *Finally! I can use my anxiety to reveal my charisma!!!*
    Anxiety: *No you can't.*
    Me: *Yes I can't*

  • onxymoonlight
    onxymoonlight Před 5 dny

    I used to do the copying what the last few words of what someone else would be saying to me and I would get in trouble for it.

  • Tiffanie _
    Tiffanie _ Před 5 dny

    May be a fellow aspie?